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Self-hatred
you may have noticed can't be improved by anything you have. For
example many people who seem to have an easy time
and have a reasonable life still feel empty and shallow. The mind
tells them it must be because they are not rich enough, or because they
don't have a big screen TV.
So it is the same with having a nice body, or a boy/girlfriend, or a
house, or a job. These things can help you feel like you belong and
feel you are similar to everyone else who is normal, but the feeling
will fade quickly, within days usually.
To the unaware mind this can be confusing and frustrating because it
perpetuates the feeling that something seriously is wrong with you, you
can never fill this void within.
What You Can Do
Eating whole foods in regular light meals and cutting out/down
the four addictions alcohol, sugar, cigarettes and caffeine will help
you feel better. People really misunderstand just how closely
linked food/diet is with feeling/mood.
Be clear in your mind that nothing you can posses or perceive has the
power to make you experience self-appreciation, self-love or is a way
to improve
your self-esteem permanently.
You might be able to hide behind the achievements in your life, but
eventually you will
realise feeling OK is not about what you achieve it is about knowing
more and more about what is really going on on this planet; where you
fit in and why you are here with all the rest of us playing your part.
Completely forget that success equals getting a house or boy/girlfriend
or having a certain career. This is all rubbish and is ONLY what
society tells us is success. From the outside looking in I don't
have any outward signs of success yet I love my life. Why?
Because at age 33 I met a man who showed me that the only thing worth
doing in life is getting below all the programming from my parents and
schooling and pursuing the truth about what life really is.
Why Are Some People Spiritual?
Have not all the masters said some version of 'the truth shall set you
free'? They were right, of course. Free from what? Well
self hatred and self loathing and worldly worries for one.
The only way to feel better and in my opinion the main way to improve
self-esteem is to come to know who you are in reality.
To transcend the illusion of the ego and day-by-day get back to who you
were born to be and not who western society turned you into, which is a
scared, separate, isolated ego which can only experience self hatred.
All of what I say probably has not made you feel any better nor maybe
even provided a solution but it is always possible it might awaken some
deep truth within you and you can move away from self hatred.
Maybe you see that you have been taught a
whole lot of junk about what is real and what is valuable in life.
By the way doing this work doesn't mean you can't have a
house or boy/girlfriend. Don't think you have to sacrifice
worldly pleasures, you can have both. Concentrate on self-discovery and
the rest will come easily and naturally at the right time for you.
You are not broken but just suffering from being a long way from
living the life you were designed to live. You are not to blame
for this it happens to all of us to various degrees. Do not blame
anyone but do take responsibility to get back to
knowing who you really are and your life will turn around remarkably.
Do you have experiences you would like to share?
I and many others would like to hear any stories you would like to contribute. Hopefully it will help people who are experiencing what you went through and your story can provide hope and help.
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