One of the best ways to foster positive self–esteem in your children is to establish stronger self–esteem for yourself. People with moderate, rather than either high or low, self–esteem show the greatest inclination to conform or to be influenced. A healthy self–esteem is necessary for you to enjoy positive emotional situations such as joy, pleasure, relaxation and gratitude. For teenagers with low self–esteem, there is a perceived relationship between self–esteem and alcohol use. Any person who has high confidence, will have a high level of general, social or peer and personal self–esteem.