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Why It Is Important to Believe in Yourself.

You may wonder why it is important to believe in yourself. The simple answer is that no one else will. Your spouse and your family will believe in you to a certain extent. However, when times get tough, family support tends to wane. It’s not that they don’t love and care about you. It’s just they stopped believing in you.

While this doesn’t always happen, it happens often enough to cause conflict. An example is when a spouse or parents initially give you support on a new venture. When the venture doesn’t work out as they believe it should, they start to question whether you should continue with it. If your belief starts to weaken, you may take on their way of thinking.

Why beliefs start to weaken.

The reason beliefs start to weaken is due to a fear of the unknown. When you start a new venture, everyone is excited for you and will tell you to give it your best shot. However, when the prospects of the business become murkier, that excitement turns to fear.

The problem is the path towards success for these ventures is not a straight line up. Having some bumps in the road is normal. In fact, this is what defines the success of the enterprise, and the people who are taking risks. It should be welcomed and not feared.

The role of fear.

The fear of the unknown may start to creep into your psyche. It’s easier to listen to your family and friends tell you to dissolve your venture because it is failing. They will continue down this negative path until you decide to stop. If you do choose to give up on your business, they will tell you that it wasn’t meant to be and that starting a business is difficult.

That time is precisely the moment that you shouldn’t stop. People never get ahead by quitting. If you believe in yourself, you would have had the conviction to see it through. You would have the appropriate guidance to give you strength to surge ahead. You could have done all of it while telling your family and friends to have some faith. A firm belief in yourself would give you the courage to stand up to them.

Never give up.

Whatever venture you decide to pursue, know that only by continuing will you make it work. Think of Thomas Edison’s contribution to the lightbulb. While he did not invent the lightbulb (contrary to popular belief), he made ones that lasted longer. Imagine if he decided to quit after he ran into a few stumbling blocks early on.

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About self-esteem

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One of the best ways to foster positive self–esteem in your children is to establish stronger self–esteem for yourself. People with moderate, rather than either high or low, self–esteem show the greatest inclination to conform or to be influenced. A healthy self–esteem is necessary for you to enjoy positive emotional situations such as joy, pleasure, relaxation and gratitude. For teenagers with low self–esteem, there is a perceived relationship between self–esteem and alcohol use. Any person who has high confidence, will have a high level of general, social or peer and personal self–esteem.
 

What Is Consciousness, Mastery of Consciousness

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What
Is Consciousness?

What is consciousness? At each level of consciousness you know yourself and the world differently. As you move up the levels you become less identified with the content of your life.

Dr David Hawkins has written extensively on the levels of consciousness and the different experiences one has as a human being at each stage.

Soon after my initial and profound spiritual awakening in 2005 I read his book Power v Force. He talks about a calibrated scale of 1 to 1000. The numbers on their own don’t have any significance, what is significant is the scale.

Dr Hawkins calibrated through kinesiology the scale at which different ways of knowing yourself and the universe become apparent.

I found this to be interesting but never picked up the book again until over three years later.

We often think that the way we encounter ourselves and the universe is the way that ‘it’ really is.

This is naive and convenient.

Two people will never agree on the same incident or interpretation so how can your way be the way that it really is?

Most people never challenge the mind to explain this. It is convenient to go back to knowing what you know, even though it is an illusion or simply an idea held firmly by your self identity.

There is only one consciousness but each human being’s experience is determined by the amount of ideas and concepts firmly held by the mind that keep consciousness hidden from itself.

In 2008, three years after first reading about these levels of consciousness I went and picked up another copy.

I had recently felt a shift in my consciousness and had started knowing myself differently.

It is interesting to read and compare the way you see yourself compared to Dr Hawkins’ description at each level. You then get an idea of where you are at and what a more peaceful life awaits you as you continue.

I had recently felt a significant increase in peace. I recall knowing and really seeing that everything I experienced really was coming from me.

This calibrates to 600 on the levels of consciousness.

It is an experience of peace. Peace inside as the mind really lets go of trying to be in charge and continue the illusion.

You can imagine the ego being found out and realizing it has lost its willingness and power to pretend anymore.

More and more subtle shifts in becoming aware of how I create my experience would correspond with an increase upwards on the scale of consciousness. This all happened rapidly in 2008.

It was fascinating the number of times I began noticing a certain experience, way of seeing the world, knowing the world and myself, and then a week or so later reading in books by various authors the same words.  It was as if I had written it.

It happened time and time again, including when picking up Dr Hawkins’ books.

This all gave me confidence that I wasn’t just fooling myself and ‘escaping into Buddahood’ as some say. This was real and this was transformation of my experience.

Also, the other thing that gave me confidence is the more I grew the more willing I was to feel uncomfortable.  I don’t mean I went looking for it but I knew extra growth and freedom could come through feeling some pain and I had an attitude of complete surrender to come what may.

There have been several times I burst into uncontrollable crying in a split second out of nowhere. I say uncontrollable but it is more so the fact that I simply surrendered and did not try and control it.

This always happened in private and the crying went without a trace in just a few seconds. One time it was replaced by uncontrollable laughter.  There was no wondering what that was about or why it happened.

This is a good lesson for anyone learning to heal. A child will feel tears and hurt fully and in a split second heal and return to life activities.

Somewhere we learn to try and not feel, as if it is wrong or unnatural. We resist, which makes the feeling worse and it gets stuffed down only to come back with vengeance, more pain and destruction at another time.

To wish feelings away or try and not feel them by distraction is to create problems for your life. Not only your health but also your relationships and experience of life.

Fortunately the curiosity and questioning doesn’t stop. The more you see the more obvious the next question becomes or the next paradox presents itself to your awareness.

Even though there is a change in identification I still feel like the same person I always have been. This is because I AM.

One should not be scared of this change. It is a change to know yourself as you really are.  It is a way to answer for yourself the question, ‘what is consciousness’?  You keep your sense of who you have always been minus any suffering or unhappiness.

Difficult to explain, impossible to make someone else know, worth you being curious about.

Ways to Improve Self Esteem, Overcoming Low Self Esteem,Improving Your Self Esteem, Help Low Self Esteem

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11 Ways To Improve Self Esteem

There are just two ways to improve self esteem.  One way to raise self-esteem is through inflating your ego, which will ultimately backfire, the other is through self discovery.  Self discovery and self acceptance is the only permanent and profound way of overcoming low self-esteem.   Read on below to discover why out of both ways to improve self esteem it is my most highly recommended.

1. Know That Your Experience Of Yourself Can Change.

First and foremost you must know that life is not one way.  Who you think you are is neither fixed nor accurate.  A lion could be raised in a herd of sheep and it could think it was a sheep but its thinking is inaccurate.  So to you think you are a certain way but your idea is inaccurate.

2. Know That The Only Way To Change Is To Be 100% Responsible

Whether it is true or not or you like it or not live as if everything you have ever experienced has come to you for a reason.

3. Accept Everything That Comes To You

One step on from taking responsibility for everything is to accept everything that comes as it is.  If you drop into playing ‘poor me’ or ‘life is unfair’ or some other interpretation then you are no longer just accepting but personalising it, i.e you are making everything that happens mean something about you.

4. Discover Your Unique Make-Up

We are all designed differently and it is available to you to discover what makes you unique from everyone else.  We all have different potential in different areas of life.  Abraham Maslow’s humanistic psychology focused on how each individual can actualise their unique potential if the choose.

5. Respect Other People’s Uniqueness

Everyone is on a similar journey towards self discovery and actualisation of their potential, some are doing it consciously while others are unaware it is a possibility or are uninterested.

6. Accept Everything You Discover About Yourself

As you discover your uniqueness own it with acceptance and gratitude no matter what it is.

7.  Drop Comparisons With Others

Comparing yourself to others takes you away from what is real and engages your ego.  The ego does not know what is right for you.  Comparing yourself favourably to someone else will help low self-esteem for a few minutes but the good feeling will vanish as quickly as it came.

8.  Improve What Is Around You

One of the things we do have control of is the environment we are within.  By this I mean the people, books, living conditions, entertainment, food and other influences that surround you.  In every moment make a more positive choice.  We become a product of what is around us so choose wisely.

9. Embrace Your Reality

Everyone has a different version of reality and yours is as valid as anyone else’s.  Be true to what you feel is right for you. Be strong and aligned with your truth.  Say what is true for you and say it without seeking approval from others.  The stronger the alignment between your internal truth and your external words and actions, the faster you will raise your self esteem.

10. Make Your Truth More Important

See that being true to yourself and honest is more important than what other people think.  Other people have their own stuff going on and do not know what it is like to be you.  Make you be the authority of you.  Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”  This is one of the most powerful ways to improve self-esteem because you are in essence backing yourself.

11. Realise That Other People Relate To You For Their Own Reasons

People always act according to what is most important to them and what is for their benefit.  It might be glorious to think some people are self-less and act for what is best for others but very few people on the planet have reached this level of development.  Humans are concerned with self-survival so they always act in their best interests.  You do this too but you probably feel ashamed or guilty to admit this.  Accept it and own it.  It is not wrong.

These 11 spiritual principles when lived transform your experience of life and of yourself.  They are 11 ways to improve self-esteem permanently.

The Importance of Being Honest, Spiritual Growth, Telling The Truth

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The Importance Of Being Honest

The importance of being honest cannot be over-stated. Being grateful is a very powerful spiritual growth attitude but wise people also know being honest is extremely powerful.

It is extraordinary how much we lie. Being honest and displaying honesty is something that we somehow hold as scary.  We lie to others and to ourselves.

We don’t always set out and plan this but if you investigated and watched your-self you will see you hardly ever tell it like it is for you.

Why are you afraid to let others know what is there for you? Why is it scary to admit, even to yourself, the truth of your experience?

Here is a short video of Peter Ralston talking about the importance of being honest.

We hold it that some things are acceptable and some are not. We split the world into two sections and are OK about revealing an idea, emotion, belief or desire that we are fairly confident will be agreed with or acceptable.

However, when it comes to being honest about something that is in our experience that may bring shame or isolation, we quickly make that not OK.

All this to uphold the persona and image you mistakenly believe you are and most importantly keep that image loved or try to ensure you are loved.

You learned to withhold honesty and it carries on today. The importance of being honest is not obvious.  What do you think that does to your sense of self and being OK knowing deep down that you have to lie?

Enlightenment Intensive

Charles Berner created the Enlightenment Intensive, which has been successful and popular since the 1960’s amongst people seeking a direct experience of their true nature.

His technique is a retreat, typically three days where the majority of waking hours are sat opposite another person, communicating to them the honest truth of what is there for you now in this moment.

It is a rare chance to communicate what is there for you, now, in this moment, arising in your awareness. This is powerful.

It is powerful because for one it is a safe and validating experience.  The partner is not to give feedback, no nods or utterances or facial gestures, just plain listening and being present for the one speaking.

John Powell in his book Why Am I Afraid To Tell You Who I Am? says ‘Honesty about our emotions, understanding of the roles we adopt to defend the fragile ego, recognition of the games we play with each
other to avoid love – these are the first steps towards a new and richer life.’

The importance of being honest is because through honesty you become more integrated and accepting of yourself. Then, depending on your level of commitment and desire to know the truth, through contemplation
and meditation it can lead you to some profound realizations about the nature of being human.

John Powell again ‘I am afraid to tell you who I am because, if I do, you may not like me.’

Be honest primarily with yourself.

A powerful first step is to resolve to understand yourself and the roles, games and manipulations you employ to keep others liking you.

Even when you do these manipulations, do them with full impartial awareness. Watch yourself do them and just notice. Then at least you are realizing the importance of being honest with your-self.

Don’t put extra guilt and shame on top, just watch like a scientist observing the way your world works.

Bring ever-increasing awareness and honesty to your life and practice being honest.

It all starts with honesty, perhaps even before this is admitting responsibility for everything in your experience of life.

However, being honest and telling the truth as much as possible, no matter the discomfort or how it makes you temporarily feel, will start transforming your life rapidly. Then whenever you are not honest you will remember the importance of being honest.

Shadow Projection, Shadow Work, Human Shadow, Healing The Shadow, The Shadow Effect

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Ego Defense: Shadow Projection

Shadow projection is the way in which you can easily spot what human
traits are in your shadow. Your shadow self is that which is unconscious.  As we are complete in our potential experience, anything which we deny as being part of us becomes unconscious.

What the ego (self-image) does is project these unconscious traits out onto the world including specific people you come across.

This is all the work of the brilliant psychologist Carl Jung who coined the term the shadow.  Why this is cool is that you can use this knowledge to be vigilant and responsible for ALL that you experience, including they way you experience other people.

Everything that irritates us about others
can lead us to an understanding of ourselves. Carl Jung

What the ego seems to do is take anything that we learned not to be, such as rude and mean, and project that out onto someone or the world as a whole.  Anything that is repressed within does not go away.  The trick is to see and accept exactly where it is coming from rather than where it appears to be coming from.

If you don’t accept that a part of your potential and experience is being rude then someone or a group of people will be burdened with your shadow projection of this rude trait.

It happens all ways.  It is tricky to see and even trickier to remember when we are faced with another individual who grates against us.

If someone is annoying to you or you think you are so much better than them or so much inferior then the challenge is for you to contemplate what is it that you are projecting onto them.

What word would you use to describe them that perfectly fits why you have this contraction away from them.  Ordinarily in a perfect world you would accept everyone as they are and experience peace in
their presence.   If you are not then there is something about YOU causing you to experience this absence of peace.  Once you have this word that describes what it is about them you dislike or like then you go within and recall situations where you have been that trait.

This is no time for further ego defense but rather brutal honesty.  The type of honesty that comes from impartial watching.  Just as if you were a scientist observing the data you observe yourself and accept that in the past there have been one or two times when you have done the same thing, or, accept that given a certain set of circumstances you would behave the same as the person who is the subject of your projection.

Rather than being a certain, fixed, object it might be better to think of yourself as potential.  Given your environment and your influences you have the potential to be anything from a thief and murderer to the holiest saint.  You are not one way.  You are not an object that is called Jane, Julie or Dave.  This is why you need to accept everything about yourself and everything that you could imagine ANY human being doing.

Each time you move a potential trait from the darkness (unconscious denial) to the light (conscious acceptance) it removes the need for the ego to project this trait onto anyone else and this is the process of healing the shadow.  This allows you to experience more peace inside and out.

Shadow projection seems to be a strategy by the ego to maintain the illusion of being a certain way.  It probably does this because you have no awareness of being connected to the whole being that you are.

Self Hatred, Self Loathing, Ways To Improve Self Esteem

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How To Deal With Self Hatred

Self-hatred you may have noticed can’t be improved by anything you have.  For example many people who seem to have an easy time and have a reasonable life still feel empty and shallow.  The mind tells them it must be because they are not rich enough, or because they don’t have a big screen TV.

So it is the same with having a nice body, or a boy/girlfriend, or a house, or a job. These things can help you feel like you belong and feel you are similar to everyone else who is normal, but the feeling will fade quickly, within days usually.

To the unaware mind this can be confusing and frustrating because it perpetuates the feeling that something seriously is wrong with you, you can never fill this void within.

What You Can Do

Eating whole foods in regular light meals and cutting out/down the four addictions alcohol, sugar, cigarettes and caffeine will help you feel better.  People really misunderstand just how closely linked food/diet is with feeling/mood.

Be clear in your mind that nothing you can posses or perceive has the power to make you experience self-appreciation, self-love or is a way to improve your self-esteem permanently.

You might be able to hide behind the achievements in your life, but eventually you will realise feeling OK is not about what you achieve it is about knowing more and more about what is really going on on this planet; where you fit in and why you are here with all the rest of us playing your part.

Completely forget that success equals getting a house or boy/girlfriend or having a certain career.  This is all rubbish and is ONLY what society tells us is success.  From the outside looking in I don’t have any outward signs of success yet I love my life. Why? Because at age 33 I met a man who showed me that the only thing worth doing in life is getting below all the programming from my parents and schooling and pursuing the truth about what life really is.

Why Are Some People Spiritual?

Have not all the masters said some version of ‘the truth shall set you free’? They were right, of course.  Free from what?  Well self-hatred and self loathing and worldly worries for one.

The only way to feel better and in my opinion the main way to improve self-esteem is to come to know who you are in reality. To transcend the illusion of the ego and day-by-day get back to who you were born to be and not who western society turned you into, which is a scared, separate, isolated ego which can only experience self-hatred.

All of what I say probably has not made you feel any better nor maybe even provided a solution but it is always possible it might awaken some deep truth within you and you can move away from self hatred.  Maybe you see that you have been taught a whole lot of junk about what is real and what is valuable in life.

By the way doing this work doesn’t mean you can’t have a house or boy/girlfriend.  Don’t think you have to sacrifice worldly pleasures, you can have both. Concentrate on self-discovery and the rest will come easily and naturally at the right time for you.

You are not broken but just suffering from being a long way from living the life you were designed to live.  You are not to blame for this it happens to all of us to various degrees.  Do not blame anyone but do take responsibility to get back to knowing who you really are and your life will turn around remarkably.

Self-Esteem, Overcoming, Signs Of Low, Quotes, Poems

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How To Build Your Self-Esteem Permanently

If you are searching the web for self-esteem you are probably coming across activities and advice like…

  • focus on your achievements
  • say your affirmations
  • be nice to yourself
  • fake it until you make it

These people mean well, but I doubt the great spiritual teachers of the past or influential psychologists of our time would answer a student’s question about self-esteem by instructing them to focus on aspects that reinforce your current experience of yourself.

I want to educate you on a simple way to work on your life that is hugely rewarding, meaningful, simple and transformational.

First I want to talk a bit more about how you got in this predicament in the first place.

Paradox

There is a paradox that to think you have to do something to change yourself means you are missing something; are not quite complete as the unique, one-of-a-kind human being that you are.

These things that others suggest you do to feel better about yourself may cause a temporary change in your feelings; you might feel more positive, more motivated or less critical of yourself for a few minutes or a couple of hours or days depending on what is going on in your life, but has your self-esteem really changed by thinking more positively or doing some activity?  Has your experience of yourself changed in who or what you think you are?

Probably not!

As soon as YOU are back in relationship with your experience of life and another person, then YOU are going to be the same that you have always been.

The same old defects and stuff you wished weren’t there will still be there.

The same negative talk and harsh judgment of yourself. The same denials of certain traits and denials of natural and normal human characteristics.

There needs to be a change in the way you approach the world and yourself. There needs to be a change in your awareness of what is really going on.

Changing the idea of who you are is really just like rearranging the food on your plate and thinking you have something different.

Trying to block out all the bad traits you have is not going to work because you have those traits.

Ignoring them doesn’t make them not exist.

Anything you don’t freely admit to will hurt you. It will make you suffer until you can become aware of yourself as having that trait, being brutally honest and accepting that trait in your experience of life.

Understand that all human beings at some point in their lives will display a trait or could potentially display a trait. This is crucial to how you like yourself.

Good and Bad

In our little idea of who we are and the self-image we have, we cut the world into two.

We then agree to accept that we have the good half and we deny and spend our lives desperately trying to avoid anyone, including ourselves, noticing that we actually do have the ‘bad’ traits as well. Of course you are likely not aware that your self-image (ego) does this denial, but somewhere in your past, most likely to ensure being looked after and loved, you subconsciously learned that there were certain traits that were not acceptable.

Note: I notice the common way of teaching children recently is to say in a wise, forceful voice ‘that is not acceptable’ as the child does something child-like

When something is not acceptable you shove that trait or the potential for that trait to the deep, dark recesses of your experience, hopefully never to be seen again.

The problem arises because you are whole and complete and everyone in the world will at some point experience being rude, lazy, selfish, mean, greedy… I will talk more about why you experience everything elsewhere, but for now just take it has truth that you are everything.

When you shoved these traits down the back they did not disappear. How could they, there is no real you with which to decide not to be something?

Your self-image is an idea of who you are and who you think you should be. It does a great job at convincing you and others that are none-the-wiser that you are a certain way absolutely. Maybe you like to come across a certain way – kind, nice, generous for example – or tough and strong maybe, but that is not an absolute reality, it is not a Truth of the way things really are in existence.

They Are Still There

These traits you decided you never wanted to be there never went away.

As you go about your life they will always be there and they will always show up in your interpretation of how you are sooner or later. So what do you think that does to your thoughts of yourself when these ‘bad’ unacceptable traits keep coming up in your awareness?

The solution is shadow work.

Shadow work begins with an understanding of the reality that you are not really, really, really a certain, fixed, absolute way. You are whole, alive, conscious and will experience every interpretation on the scale from bad to good at some stage.

There are times you will be uglier than some but more beautiful than others. There will be times when you will seem rude and other times you will seem polite.

Other times you will be intelligent compared to someone else yet another time someone smarter will be in your awareness and interpretation.

Maybe you just are stupid compared to the majority of the population. So what? If that is how it is in your experience, so be it.

I really am talking about your brutal honesty and acceptance in your own awareness of these traits.

You could have shoved ‘rude’ to the back because you were always told to be good and polite.

This rudeness, until it is accepted as being an OK part of you, will continue to cause problems for you whenever it shows up. It will show up in some way in YOUR universe. It will show up in some part of your experience of life and you will feel terrible when it does. The trait won’t stop showing up in your life as a problem until it is allowed to be there without resistance.

It Is OK To Be Rude

It is OK to be rude. In certain circumstances it is appropriate to behave in a way that someone else might judge you as rude. Maybe to get what you want or to stand up for yourself you will come across as rude.

It is only an interpretation.

My self-esteem went through the roof when I had this realisation and worked to go through over 1,000 traits and accept that I had displayed them or could display them all.

No exceptions. Brutal honesty and making it perfectly OK that as a human being I am imperfect and just trying to get along. I do the best with my level of awareness in each moment. In relation to others (compared to others) who have different values and desires, you will behave, say or do something that could be called ‘bad’.

Accept that.

I even have a little giggle to myself when I interpret myself as ‘bad’ and remind myself that I am just doing my best and certainly don’t need extra judgment. When you do this, that judge will quieten down in your head and let you simply be who you are.

Apart from this your effectiveness and ability to interact with the world and others will sky rocket also. You will no longer have little parts of your psyche trying to show up and sabotaging you. These parts of your psyche will simply rest and leave you to create your world.

As you own and accept everything about yourself you will love yourself so much that it hurts sometimes! And how can you have low self-esteem when you love yourself?

Impossible.

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Definition Of Self-Esteem

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Overcoming Low Self-Esteem

Transforming your experience of yourself is the key to overcoming low self esteem.  In 2007 two years after I had my first and most profound enlightenment experience I realised how I could learn more about my conditioning and programming.

Unfortunately you and everyone else grew up with less than ideal influences and messages.  You are subject to the messages from your parents and teachers about what is right and wrong.  However Mum and Dad or whoever took care of you have their own unique hurt and fear and this shapes the messages you receive.

Your self-image and your ideas of what is acceptable and expected is formed from these messages and your own unique interpretations of what you experience… Read More

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Signs Of Low Self-Esteem

How to spot the most common signs.

  • Feeling apologetic for your existence
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11 Ways To Improve Self-Esteem

Things to change about the way you think of yourself and others.  Start to undo the ego and beliefs and
instead go for what is true about life and you!…Read More

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Improving Your Self-Esteem

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Help Low Self-Esteem

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Enhancing Self-Esteem

The approach to raising self esteem that I promote is all about aligning yourself with spiritual principles.  It does not require you to believe a religion or follow a guru, it just asks you to notice
what makes human beings feel good… Read More

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Raise Your Self-Esteem

It is up to you how much work you wish to do in transforming your experience of life.  Put it this way, Buddha sat alone under a tree for six years and I bet he wasn’t lonely or felt unworthy. If you are to have high self esteem you will need to have an experience of what a self actually is… Read More

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Boosting Self-Esteem

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The Process of Raising Self-Esteem

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Self-Esteem Poems

The most relevant self-esteem poems to this website and shadow work. These poems all express the importance of self-acceptance. Ellen’s is wise and I also love Rumi’s. Although they are not strictly obviously self-esteem poems, they are about complete self-acceptance and that is the crux of self-esteem help… Read More

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Self-Esteem Quotes

Below is a selection of self-esteem quotes spoken from a place of clear awareness describing a main cause of low self-esteem.

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Self-Esteem Quotes, Self-Motivation Tips

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Self-Esteem Quotes

Below is a selection of self-esteem quotes spoken from a place of clear awareness describing a main cause of low self-esteem.

People think it is a virtue to disown parts of themselves of which they disapprove. All they succeed in doing is to keep themselves stuck with those parts forever. They have cut off the only means of growth or transformation. Nataniel Branden

The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely. Carl Gustav Jung

A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval. Mark Twain

Once we accept our limits, we go beyond them. Albert Einstein.

For real self esteem is not derived from the great things you’ve done, the things you won. The mark you’ve made – but an appreciation of yourself for what you are. Maxwell Max

The worst loneliness is not to be comfortable with yourself. Mark Twain.

If we really love ourselves, everything in our life works. Louise L. Hay

Some self esteem quotes pointing to what an experience of high self-esteem is like…

Those who are truly comfortable with themselves and their achievements take pleasure in being who they are, they do not need to tell the world about it. Nathaniel Branden

I am an artist of my own creation. I like myself. Sondra Ray

Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives. Louise L. Hay

Nothing can bring you peace but yourself. Ralph Waldo Emerson

To be authentic, you have to be everything that you are, omitting nothing. Within everyone there is light/shadow, good/evil, love/hate. Deepak Chopra

Self-Esteem Poems, Self-Esteem Help

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Self-Esteem Poems

The most relevant self-esteem poems to this website and shadow work. These poems all express the importance of self-acceptance. Ellen’s below is wise and I also love Rumi’s. Although they are not strictly obviously self-esteem poems, they are about complete self-acceptance and that is the crux of self-esteem help.

Be Yourself

by Ellen Bailey

Why would you want to be someone else

When you could be better

by being yourself

Why pretend to be someone you are not

When you have something they haven’t got

Cheating yourself of the life you have to live

Deprives others of that only which you can give

You have much more to offer by being just you

Than walking around in someone else’s shoes

Trying to live the life of another is a mistake

It is a masquerade; nothing more than a fake

Be yourself and let your qualities show through

Others will love you more for being just you

Remember that God loves you just as you are

To Him you are already a bright shining star

Family and friends will love you more too

If you spent time practicing just being you

How to Improve Yourself

Anonymous

Let each man learn to know himself;

To gain that knowledge let him labor

To improve those failings in himself

Which he condemns so in his neighbor.

How lenient our own faults we view,

And conscience’s voice adeptly smother;

Yet, oh, how harshly we review

The self-same failings in another!

And if you meet an erring one

Whose deeds are blamable and thoughtless,

Consider, ere you cast the stone,

If you yourself are pure and faultless.

Oh, list to that small voice within,

Whose whisperings oft make men confounded,

And trumpet not another’s sin;

You’d blush deep if your own were sounded.

And in self judgment if you find

Your deeds to others are superior,

To you has Providence been kind,

As you should be to those inferior.

Example sheds a genial ray

Of light which men are apt to borrow;

So first improve yourself today

And then improve your friends tomorrow.

I Love Being Me

by Gemma Hayton

I can’t run the fastest

I can’t swim the sea

I can’t type the quickest

but I love being me

I can’t kick a ball

or even climb a tree

I can’t roll in the grass

but I still love being me

You see, this is my life

as others would see

they don’t know what it’s like

to really be me

So next time I’m about

rolling down the street

don’t think of me disabled

but someone cool to meet

I have lots I can teach you

I have loads I can share

you will never gain my wisdom

if you just point and stare

So maybe I can’t run the fastest

maybe I can’t kick a ball

but I wouldn’t change being me

not for you, not at all

The Guest House

Rumi

This being human is a guest house.

Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,

some momentary awareness comes

as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!

Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,

who violently sweep your house

empty of its furniture,

still, treat each guest honorably.

He may be clearing you out

for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,

meet them at the door laughing,

and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,

because each has been sent

as a guide from beyond.

Remember the more completely you accept your experience the higher your self-esteem. Poems can speak directly to us and put words to an experience that often prose cannot.

I hope you enjoyed and got some benefit from these self-esteem poems. If you have, or come across, any additional self-esteem poems that you feel express profoundly the work of accepting and owning our complete experience, please contact me.