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The Process of Raising Self-Esteem

The process of raising self esteem is simple but not necessarily easy. Simple in the fact that all it requires is a transformation in consciousness from denial and fear to acceptance and love.

It is not necessarily easy because the belief that you are a separate, completely independent thing is strong and convincing.

One way of raising self esteem is to take your belief that you are a thing and pump up the beliefs about what that thing is like. In short you change your self image for a better one.

You can attempt to focus on something that you believe to be true about yourself that makes you feel a bit more worthy and acceptable. By the way, in doing this the parts that you don’t like about yourself don’t actually disappear they just get ignored.

This might seem like a result however it will likely cause greater problems for you at a later date in some way.

Just as if you are repairing or cleaning something and you try and do just enough so that what is immediately visible looks OK, deep down you feel a nagging that you haven’t quite done a proper job. You know it will have to be faced at a later date. Or you feel a false sense of achievement that you have got a way with it. It is like you feel clever for taking the easy way out and achieving your task.

How does it feel when you know you have really done a thorough job and you know your repair will last? Just like rust in a car or a hole in a sock the section needs to be completely rebuilt and reintegrated into the whole.

So it is with the ego and the Self. The ego is who and what you think you are. You might think you are kind and polite and this and that. Or you might think you are stupid and pathetic and mean and cruel. Whatever self image you have is your ego.

Your ego is just your idea and becomes the focus of your life. It is what you then interpret life’s events through.

Just as the rust in the car would attract the eye and the attention and make you miss seeing the car as a whole so to we end up focusing on the self image and miss seeing and feeling the whole experience. By the whole experience I mean the experience of being part of the whole, connected to all that there is, divine, Self.

The process of raising self esteem is to bit by bit transform your awareness from the ego to the whole. When you meditate the ego takes a back seat. When you sit across from another person and feel their energy and really get what they are communicating the ego takes a back seat. There are many many ways of accomplishing this task of deidentifying with the ego and reidentifying with the whole.

Why does this raise your self esteem? Because genuine self esteem is a product of your awareness, acceptance and love of the truth. It is not something you build up and pump up, it is something that comes because you see how futile it is to continue trying to be something or not trying to be something.

Some people try to always be right, some people try never to be rude. Some people try and be cool, other people try and never be wrong. This is all ego and genuine self-esteem can never come
through rearranging, pumping up or resisting the ego.

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Raise Your Self Esteem

Once you raise your self esteem, if done thoroughly, you experience life flowing.

A translation by J.H. McDonald of chapter 2 of Tao Te Ching says…

Things come her way and she does not stop them;

Things leave and she lets them go.

She has without possessing,

and acts without expectations.

When her work is done she takes no credit.

Once you begin to transcend the illusion of being an isolated, separate object and feel and know that you are not…

a certain way
separate
completely in control
doing something wrong

then it becomes pointless worrying about…

things that you don’t have
what other people think of you
what you should be doing

If you could pretend right now that everything that you thought to be true about your life and yourself was part of a larger plan to help you do something magnificent at a later time, would that make more sense?

If you could trust the intelligence of what has you aware of yourself, and trust that this power, force, potential, ability, creator call it what you will, is actually who you are in essence, you could let go of trying to work out with your rational mind why things happen, why things don’t happen, why this and why that.

Some people like to feel in control of their lives and they don’t have much internal turmoil. They are probably quite content with their life experience most of the time. If you have much internal turmoil and angst it would indicate to me that there are memories within your nervous system which have not yet been processed and let go of.

Either that or your attitude and beliefs about what life is are so far removed from reality that life is a traumatic experience for you.

What does all this have to do with boosting self esteem? Well, self-esteem is not a thing that you develop like a muscle. You cannot think of self esteem as a thing you have. You cannot develop more of it specifically.

To raise your self-esteem you simply need to know the truth of what self is. There are two selfs. One we write with a small ‘s’ and means the ego or illusion of who you think you are. The big ‘S’ Self means the essential, spiritual, real, authentic you.

The one you were born as, the one who is unique and unknown. Once you turn your attention inwards to the feeling of being aware and curious about who and what that is, you start to get to know the real you, the real Self.

So in order to experience overcoming low self-esteem know the real you, the big ‘S’ Self. The big ‘S’ Self thinks that it is pretty AMAZING. The big ‘S’ Self loves itself and knowing that this is who you are is how you raise your self-esteem.