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What To Do To Be Saved | How Can You Be Saved | Gift Of Salvation

What To Do To Be Saved

The Story Of Billy Lind

There are repeated stories of what to do to be saved from internal pain, suffering and torment.  There is the story of Billy Lind below which is a classic story of opening up to the divine at the lowest point of his life.  It is a story about the gift of salvation.

***Watch the video below***

Billy’s father left at age 5 and at age 12 he began searching the streets looking to fill the deep emptiness inside.  Needing to support himself he began selling his body, which soon became all he knew, and all he could do to survive.

In Billy’s own words…

I cried and cried. I thought if there was a God He didn’t care enough about me to help me… I was alone and angry. However, I needed to survive, so I took a different approach. I decided I would be in control of every situation I would decide who, what, and where. I became a master manipulator. I got what I wanted when I wanted it. I figured if they were going to use me, I was certainly going to use them. I was so alone, lonely, hurt, and disconnected. I just existed and succumbed to my circumstances, so I started to do drugs, and lots of them to mask the pain.

It is a torturous story that is an example that many people report of what to do to be saved. Billy Lind’s life turned around once he recognised that life is so much bigger than himself.

Even though I do not recognise myself as a Christian – and maybe you do not either – I do recognise that often we go through life unaccepting and without conscious recognition and surrender of what might be true about life that is bigger than each of us, namely what some call God.

This is how you can be saved, it is what healing is about.  It is about Truth.  Aligning with what is real about life instead of maintaining a feeling of needing to be in control and manipulating people.  We do this because without conscious recognition and an attitude of surrender and humbleness to the creator we have nothing, and that hurts.  I hope this helps you understand what you can do to be saved.  Turn everything over and receive the gift of salvation.

What Is Consciousness, Mastery of Consciousness


What
Is Consciousness?

What is consciousness? At each level of consciousness you know yourself and the world differently. As you move up the levels you become less identified with the content of your life.

Dr David Hawkins has written extensively on the levels of consciousness and the different experiences one has as a human being at each stage.

Soon after my initial and profound spiritual awakening in 2005 I read his book Power v Force. He talks about a calibrated scale of 1 to 1000. The numbers on their own don’t have any significance, what is significant is the scale.

Dr Hawkins calibrated through kinesiology the scale at which different ways of knowing yourself and the universe become apparent.

I found this to be interesting but never picked up the book again until over three years later.

We often think that the way we encounter ourselves and the universe is the way that ‘it’ really is.

This is naive and convenient.

Two people will never agree on the same incident or interpretation so how can your way be the way that it really is?

Most people never challenge the mind to explain this. It is convenient to go back to knowing what you know, even though it is an illusion or simply an idea held firmly by your self identity.

There is only one consciousness but each human being’s experience is determined by the amount of ideas and concepts firmly held by the mind that keep consciousness hidden from itself.

In 2008, three years after first reading about these levels of consciousness I went and picked up another copy.

I had recently felt a shift in my consciousness and had started knowing myself differently.

It is interesting to read and compare the way you see yourself compared to Dr Hawkins’ description at each level. You then get an idea of where you are at and what a more peaceful life awaits you as you continue.

I had recently felt a significant increase in peace. I recall knowing and really seeing that everything I experienced really was coming from me.

This calibrates to 600 on the levels of consciousness.

It is an experience of peace. Peace inside as the mind really lets go of trying to be in charge and continue the illusion.

You can imagine the ego being found out and realizing it has lost its willingness and power to pretend anymore.

More and more subtle shifts in becoming aware of how I create my experience would correspond with an increase upwards on the scale of consciousness. This all happened rapidly in 2008.

It was fascinating the number of times I began noticing a certain experience, way of seeing the world, knowing the world and myself, and then a week or so later reading in books by various authors the same words.  It was as if I had written it.

It happened time and time again, including when picking up Dr Hawkins’ books.

This all gave me confidence that I wasn’t just fooling myself and ‘escaping into Buddahood’ as some say. This was real and this was transformation of my experience.

Also, the other thing that gave me confidence is the more I grew the more willing I was to feel uncomfortable.  I don’t mean I went looking for it but I knew extra growth and freedom could come through feeling some pain and I had an attitude of complete surrender to come what may.

There have been several times I burst into uncontrollable crying in a split second out of nowhere. I say uncontrollable but it is more so the fact that I simply surrendered and did not try and control it.

This always happened in private and the crying went without a trace in just a few seconds. One time it was replaced by uncontrollable laughter.  There was no wondering what that was about or why it happened.

This is a good lesson for anyone learning to heal. A child will feel tears and hurt fully and in a split second heal and return to life activities.

Somewhere we learn to try and not feel, as if it is wrong or unnatural. We resist, which makes the feeling worse and it gets stuffed down only to come back with vengeance, more pain and destruction at another time.

To wish feelings away or try and not feel them by distraction is to create problems for your life. Not only your health but also your relationships and experience of life.

Fortunately the curiosity and questioning doesn’t stop. The more you see the more obvious the next question becomes or the next paradox presents itself to your awareness.

Even though there is a change in identification I still feel like the same person I always have been. This is because I AM.

One should not be scared of this change. It is a change to know yourself as you really are.  It is a way to answer for yourself the question, ‘what is consciousness’?  You keep your sense of who you have always been minus any suffering or unhappiness.

Difficult to explain, impossible to make someone else know, worth you being curious about.

Ways to Improve Self Esteem, Overcoming Low Self Esteem,Improving Your Self Esteem, Help Low Self Esteem

11 Ways To Improve Self Esteem

There are just two ways to improve self esteem.  One way to raise self-esteem is through inflating your ego, which will ultimately backfire, the other is through self discovery.  Self discovery and self acceptance is the only permanent and profound way of overcoming low self-esteem.   Read on below to discover why out of both ways to improve self esteem it is my most highly recommended.

1. Know That Your Experience Of Yourself Can Change.

First and foremost you must know that life is not one way.  Who you think you are is neither fixed nor accurate.  A lion could be raised in a herd of sheep and it could think it was a sheep but its thinking is inaccurate.  So to you think you are a certain way but your idea is inaccurate.

2. Know That The Only Way To Change Is To Be 100% Responsible

Whether it is true or not or you like it or not live as if everything you have ever experienced has come to you for a reason.

3. Accept Everything That Comes To You

One step on from taking responsibility for everything is to accept everything that comes as it is.  If you drop into playing ‘poor me’ or ‘life is unfair’ or some other interpretation then you are no longer just accepting but personalising it, i.e you are making everything that happens mean something about you.

4. Discover Your Unique Make-Up

We are all designed differently and it is available to you to discover what makes you unique from everyone else.  We all have different potential in different areas of life.  Abraham Maslow’s humanistic psychology focused on how each individual can actualise their unique potential if the choose.

5. Respect Other People’s Uniqueness

Everyone is on a similar journey towards self discovery and actualisation of their potential, some are doing it consciously while others are unaware it is a possibility or are uninterested.

6. Accept Everything You Discover About Yourself

As you discover your uniqueness own it with acceptance and gratitude no matter what it is.

7.  Drop Comparisons With Others

Comparing yourself to others takes you away from what is real and engages your ego.  The ego does not know what is right for you.  Comparing yourself favourably to someone else will help low self-esteem for a few minutes but the good feeling will vanish as quickly as it came.

8.  Improve What Is Around You

One of the things we do have control of is the environment we are within.  By this I mean the people, books, living conditions, entertainment, food and other influences that surround you.  In every moment make a more positive choice.  We become a product of what is around us so choose wisely.

9. Embrace Your Reality

Everyone has a different version of reality and yours is as valid as anyone else’s.  Be true to what you feel is right for you. Be strong and aligned with your truth.  Say what is true for you and say it without seeking approval from others.  The stronger the alignment between your internal truth and your external words and actions, the faster you will raise your self esteem.

10. Make Your Truth More Important

See that being true to yourself and honest is more important than what other people think.  Other people have their own stuff going on and do not know what it is like to be you.  Make you be the authority of you.  Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”  This is one of the most powerful ways to improve self-esteem because you are in essence backing yourself.

11. Realise That Other People Relate To You For Their Own Reasons

People always act according to what is most important to them and what is for their benefit.  It might be glorious to think some people are self-less and act for what is best for others but very few people on the planet have reached this level of development.  Humans are concerned with self-survival so they always act in their best interests.  You do this too but you probably feel ashamed or guilty to admit this.  Accept it and own it.  It is not wrong.

These 11 spiritual principles when lived transform your experience of life and of yourself.  They are 11 ways to improve self-esteem permanently.

Wayne Dyer Quotes, Dr Wayne Dyer, Spiritual, Self-Esteem, Self-Confidence


Wise Wayne Dyer Quotes

Discover spiritual encouragement and inspiration from Dr Wayne Dyer quotes below.

These quotes have been selected from a couple of Wayne Dyer books, namely 10 Secrets for Success and Inner Peace and Getting in the Gap.

The Wayne Dyer quotes I have selected are shown here because they have most relevance to the theme of this website and are to provide spiritual inspiration and spiritual encouragement.


When you feel peaceful and successful, you want to extend and export that peace and love.

Your attachments are the source of all your problems. The need to be right, to possess someone or something, to win at all costs, to be viewed by others as superior – these are all attachments.

To release attachments, you have to make a shift in how you view yourself. As a spiritual being, you can observe your body and be a compassionate witness to your existence.

If you can love someone enough to allow them to be exactly what they choose to be – without any expectations or attachments from you – you’ll know true peace in your lifetime.

True love means you love a person for what they are, not for what you think they should be. This is an open mind – and an absence of attachment.

As tough as it is to acknowledge, you had to go through what you went through in order to get to where yo are today, and the evidence is that you did.

Your life is like a play with several acts. Some of the characters have short roles to play, others much larger. Some are villains and others are good guys. But all of them are necessary, otherwise they wouldn’t be in the play. Embrace them all, and move on to the next act.

Surrendering To The Truth Of The Way ‘It’ Is


The Truth Will Set You Free

What do we mean by Truth? Are we talking about they way you think you and the world are in each moment?

Are we talking about judgments such as it was bad to fly a plane into a building?

When we talk about Truth it is wise to begin by forgetting about everything you know and ask yourself what would be still here if I had a different life story.

It is true that you have an identity and a concept of who you are. You believe you are a certain type of person such as a good boy, or a bad, mean girl.

However, your self-image is not the truth. It is a mental construct and a whole lot of ideas that are held firmly by you.

It is quite conceivable that you could have a different life story and self-image. What would be the same between now and that alternative self image?

It would still be you right?

Doing the above exercise you might come to the conclusion that your existence and your being is a common amongst all beings or all humans.

No matter what construct of ideas you have about yourself, what remains true and certain is the awareness that you exist.

We find ourselves here with no knowing of what it is about. There is something about being here which demands surrendering to that which has us here, whatever that may be.

You only have to look out at the stars and moon and contemplate the planets and be brutally honest that you have no idea what the heck it is all about.

It will be the ego, your personality-mind, which won’t be comfortable with admitting you don’t know. You can listen to the ego and let it play its little game of ‘don’t ignore me’, ‘you need me’ or whatever else but don’t let it convince you that

1. you do know

2. you should know

3. this is not important

4. you are special

5. whatever other defense or resistance your ego will creatively come
up with

Learn to surrender to that which ‘is’.

I like to surrender in wonder and awe.

When you let go of everything you know and let the realization that you don’t know anything about existence, being, how you got here, where you go after you leave, why you are here, how the sun and moon and tides work or anything of this nature, you touch a more authentic part of you.

There is a calmness, intelligence and joy when you surrender to what is.

As I sit here and look around and watch my mind make sense of the world we have created, I can see that my mind is necessary to operate in this world as a separate self.

However, I can also see that anything I can distinguish will not exist in the fullness of time and it will exist now as it is irrespective of whether I distinguish it or not.

I can see that thoughts come and go and feelings do also. Ideas about what is important to me come and go. I let them all come and go but never attach myself emotionally to them.

What is the truth of the nature of being, of you, of what you experience or of what allows you to experience?

Spiritual Surrender


Spiritual Surrender To Feel Better

What is spiritual surrender?

Often we think we need to plan and think out each moment.

Learn to give up trying to control and amazing things begin to happen. Bring awareness to how often you wish to control this moment.

Are you comfortable surrendering to the intelligence that is not the intelligence people refer to when they talk of IQ?

In the world of apparent reality – the world you observe – conditions and circumstances will be either.

  • to your liking
  • not to your liking or
  • you will be indifferent



Firstly, given how little you know of

  • what is going on
  • how you got here
  • why you are here…



don’t you think it is a little presumptuous to believe that you are completely in control of every experience of your life?

Sure you have an apparent self that includes your thoughts, beliefs, self-image and values but you also have an aspect that is far greater in real-ness. This aspect I am referring to is the commonality between all human beings. Maybe it is the commonality between all beings; all life?

Lowest Common Denominator

If you step aside from your sense of “I am my story” and move to identify with a little more awareness of the ever present lowest common denominator (or should I say highest) between all of us, you are experiencing a state of being that is more liberating.

In this state of identifying as something other than your story (for example whilst sitting meditating or in a hypnotic trance) you realize that when any human being does this we all experience the same alive-ness, life force, awareness, call it what you will.

It is an experience that doesn’t permanently remove the sense of being a separate self, but what it does do is bring more awareness to that which is greater than your-self. It is this aspect which is greater than my-self which I don’t understand with my mind, that is the focus of your spiritual surrender.

Breathing

Sit here and notice for a moment that breathing happens. Really watch and admit and acknowledge to your-self that breathing happens without ‘you’; without your story or sense of self-image doing breathing. You can choose to speed it up or make it shallower or hold it for a while but there is an intelligence or process which happens without your wishes or desires.

Something will move or change despite your desire to control; this is spiritual surrender. You might also want to include faith. Faith in the ever-present condition that you are, or appear to be a part of.

How much else that goes on is really under your control? You can, and probably do

  • manipulate others
  • emotionally blackmail others
  • choose to be aggressive
  • choose what you eat etc…



but I would encourage you to spend more time in conscious awareness of not-knowing and letting go of things needing to be a certain way for you.

Practice feeling your body and feelings the way it is and surrender. Be open and let go of wanting to define what it is or should be, just experience. Surrender to the fact that it is not even a body. We just call it a body to communicate with others. It is what it is and it will be what it is irrespective of what you call it and the interpretations and assumptions you have about a body or your body.

To change your life you need to get this in your own experience. Understanding the words and creating an idea in your mind of what it might be like to notice these things is not going to bring transformation.

Sometimes it is easy to practice spiritual surrender and comes naturally in this moment. Sometimes you will find you are strongly identified with being a separate self with your own desires and need to plan an aspect of your life. Sometimes you will sit and wonder at all you can’t control and all you don’t know.

Eventually you will move beyond identifying with either and simply abide in a place where whatever is most appropriate in each situation will arise for you and whatever will arise you will accept, have faith in and surrender.

I have found forgiveness and compassion for myself a huge help. No matter the thought or action I forgive myself and accept myself. Sometimes operating in the dualistic mind – the mind of separateness. Sometimes being still and wondering and contemplating. Whatever is there is there.

It makes a whole lot of difference to your self esteem and experience of life to practice and experience spiritual surrender to what is.

Trust

Trust That Everything Is OK Will

Bring Miraculous Results

When you trust that there is some path you are on or some unforeseen unfolding to your life, you can live with more peace and purpose.

Ok so I am not so sure Billy Joel below is talking about anything more than the struggles of learning to trust in a romantic relationship, but I like the words in the context of aligning yourself with the way that brings more inner peace.

You can’t go the distance

With too much resistance

I know you have doubts

But for God’s sake don’t shut me out (Billy Joel)

It might strike you as strange if you were to become aware how often you deny this moment. It is as if you are constantly trying to improve the situation by getting somewhere other than right here and now.

I say strange because as you grow in awareness it not only seems fruitless to wish things were different, but it seems ridiculous to ever think that there is somewhere else to get or something to change.

Sure you may desire some change but that will happen when and if the circumstances are aligned with that change. You can’t make the change happen but you can sure accept and trust this moment, wherever you are.

That is what I like about the video of Jason and his story. He comes across as aligning himself with the principle that he can hold a dream or a desire but he is going to accept his life as he finds it in each moment. Not only accept it but also excel and be enthusiastic at it like he was as the team manager.

That is to say he seems to not create suffering for himself. If he desperately wanted things to be different and wanted to be a starting member of the team every week then is life would be misery wouldn’t it? He would constantly be wishing things were different than the way they were.

That doesn’t stop him from dreaming of things being different but he comes across on the video as making the distinction between what is now and what is just his wishing.

Wherever you find yourself is the place you need to fully fill before life will move you on.  By that I mean completely accepting your reality and acknowledging it is that way now.  Jump into your fate with both feet.

Anything else will keep you suffering and stuck.

When you let go of wanting to be somewhere else or wanting to be someone else you will experience a shift. The days of spending every waking moment wishing things were different will be replaced by peace
and appropriate action.

Who are you to say what is right and wrong or should not be happening? You don’t even know why you are here, who you are, how you got here, where you go after this life but still you try and control the way things are.

To sit back and trust that everything is as it is and to trust that which is bigger than you, which you are obviously a part of, is to align with a peaceful, humble way of life.

It is very humbling to give up control and to stop trying to change this moment with effort.

You can acknowledge this moment, identify what you would like to experience differently and then seek to change the circumstances that will allow you to experience the difference.

Seek without strain, without effort, with trust and with faith.

Even as you strive to improve some area of your life, still there remains trust and faith that all is in order.

Who are you to say things are not as they should be?

Chuck Spezzano in his book If it Hurts it isn’t Love says, “The highest level of success is something we flow with, not something that is planned. We do not control the wave when we are surfing…we go with the flow of it and to the extent we do, we become successful”.

Toltec Wisdom, The Four Agreements Book, Teachings, Personal Growth


Realise Self-Discovery – Toltec Wisdom

What Is Toltec Wisdom About?

It is about transcending the ideas you have about who you are and discovering what is real about you.

It is the wisdom to know how to live in a way that makes a difference.

It is about learning to listen and get your direction not from your mind, but from your heart and gut.

What Is Wrong With Following The Mind?

Does your mind know how you got here?  Your mind is not designed to know anything about you.  The mind is so very useful at many things but knowing what is right for you is not one of them.

We misunderstand what mind is.  Because we rely on it so much day-by-day we give its function too much kudos, we start to believe the only way to know something is through thought.

Our mind willingly assumes the role of master in command.  All the while direction for your life and your purpose is quietly screaming instructions from your torso.

Where Do These Instructions Appear?

They appear in your being.  You have thoughts, you have emotions, you have mind and you also have being.

Your being is that feeling of aliveness that you can turn your attention towards.  Without being/aliveness/life force your body would be a heap on the floor.

Your being is most easily felt in your torso.

Around the heart and down in the gut you feel that is really you.  When you say ‘this is me’ you will accompany this statement with a touch to the chest.  That statement won’t feel accurate unless you touch your heart space.

Why Do We Not Listen?

We identify as the contents of mind so if we think we are the mind of course we will only follow it.

It is easy to justify to ourself and others through rational thought and logic why we do things.  It is a far less acceptable way to society and friends to say I am doing this because I feel it.  Mind is given kudos and feeling is disregarded in our society.

Toltec wisdom is about the teachings which give you the courage and trust to align with your true self and surrender the mind to this greater wisdom we have within.

Why Is This Important For Personal Growth And Spiritual Growth?

  • you become honest and authentic
  • life flows more easily and effortlessly for you
  • you suffer less
  • your life has greater meaning and purpose
  • you have greater inner peace and contentment

Toltec Teachings


The Wisdom Of Toltec Teachings

Toltec teachings are about wisdom.  The wisdom to follow your in-built guidance system instead of the conditioning and influence of society.

Wisdom

You see if you turn within and listen to the small voice or the gut feeling you have then you are on your own in this big world.  If you do take notice of what your gut is guiding you towards then you have faith and confidence that you are being led to the right place at the right time to discover what you need to learn.

The alternative is to be influenced by those to emotions fear and greed.  Have a look at how financial markets operate.  There is very little rationality to them and if you have ever tried to trade on a market you will see how strong these emotions are.

So it is with your life.  In the absence of something larger than you to cling to and use as your guidance system you will flit from one thing to the next, spend up large every weekend on stuff to get that short term buzz that makes you feel alive, and be at the mercy of clever marketers and advertisers.

All you will ever need to know about your life is there already.  That is not saying it all becomes clear and you can see your path but if you view your life as a journey and so long as you follow your gut you will feel fulfilled and meaningful.

Why It Pays To Be Honest

Toltec teachings are also about integrity and being honest, keeping your word and expressing your truth, even if doing so upsets another person.  If you continue to pretend and make up who you are instead of outstretching your arms and saying to the universe, ‘this is who I am right in this moment now, take it or leave it’, then you are splitting yourself and abandoning who you are.

Take Responsibility

The quickest way I have found to transform and grow in consciousness is to take responsibility for everything that you perceive or think.  Anything that happens within your experience of life is your responsibility.  It is difficult to prove that childhood abuse or being a victim of a violent incident is your responsibility but the irony is that if you do think about these things in such a way you then grow past these events and your life improves.

I am not saying you caused these things to happen but rather responsibility implies they took place for some reason, even if you don’t know what the reason was.

The Invitation Oriah Mountain Dreamer, Spiritual Poems


The Invitation Oriah Mountain Dreamer

Excerpts from The Invitation Oriah Mountain Dreamer returned home from a typical social gathering, a party and felt frustrated at the superficial connections and posturing that is socially expected at such events.  She put pen to paper and produced a poem that quickly spread world-wide.

I want to know what you ache for and if you dream of meeting your heart’s longing.

Who you really are as a conscious individual is inspired by the feeling deep within.  It is sacred.  It is given to you to be expressed through you.  When you talk from the eyes up you are just making it up as best you can.

Your head has no idea what you are meant to be doing with your life.  Maybe your heart hasn’t revealed it all either, but it will reveal the next step, even if the next step is ‘be patient and do nothing’.

I want to know if you can sit with pain mine or your own without moving to hide it or fade it or fix it.

One way we try and control our lives, which are not controllable, is to decide how we want to feel or should feel.  We don’t get taught how to understand and approach feelings when growing up.  We instead think that distraction and avoidance is a solution and we carry on through adulthood the same way.

To sit and surrender and not wish anything away is healing, forever.  You clear the past and are then free to discover more of your heart’s longing.

let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful to be realistic to remember the limitations of being human.

Ahh the curse of social conditioning.  The unwillingness to feel the ups and downs. The belief that something bad will follow something good.  It doesn’t.  Something bad will follow a misplaced attitude, cockiness, pumping your-self up, taking all the credit but good fortune and joy can be there without fear, shame or guilt.

I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself.

People don’t care half as much about what you do as you think.  Sure they will care about your happiness and well-being to greater or lesser degree, but if you make a change in your life, people won’t care for longer than about 6 hours before something else more important grabs their attention.

Sure there might be short-term disappointment but love is wanting what another wants for themselves.  If they are not supportive they are acting out of their own fears and selfish wishes, even if they convince themselves it is for love.

I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.

Some people are designed to thrive in the company of others and to enjoy being around people so don’t think that if you prefer to not be alone there is something wrong.  However there is a difference
between this and disliking yourself and trying to distract yourself.  If you do need to spend time alone, are you OK with it or are you running from all that you are?

Due to copyright restrictions I have only reproduced a small section of the most relevant parts of the poem The Invitation Oriah Mountain Dreamer.  These are the sections most relevant to the theme of this website.