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Conscious Men, Conscious Women, Conscious Relationships, Gay Hendricks

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Conscious Men Relating

To Conscious Women

Here is a video about conscious men coming to the realisation that their power and potential for growth lies in their attitude and ways of relating to women, be they conscious women or not.  Well known authors Gay Hendricks and Kathlyn Hendricks talk with Pamela Zimmer about the potential for women and men to grow spiritually and personally when men allow and encourage women to be who they are authentically.

What Gay says about being a block of granite with a shirt on is very true.  Men grow up believing that emotions and feelings are unnecessary and/or embarrassing.  Women might find that hard to understand.  Watch and enjoy and please leave comments below.

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Do you agree with what is being spoken about?  As a woman would you feel safe in this type of conscious relationship with a man?

The Celestine Prophecy Book by James Redfield

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The Celestine Prophecy Book

Who Wrote The Celestine Prophecy?

The Celestine Prophecy book was written by James Redfield in 1993.  James Redfield grew up in Alabama, USA and was raised in the ways of the Methodist Church.  Later he became more interested in Eastern philosophy and it is here that he likely developed the spiritual ideas which were presented in the book.

What Is The Book About?

The book is fictional.  It is a made up story about an American man who is told of an ancient manuscript in Peru containing centuries old wisdom and predictions about life.  Off he travels and meets all sorts of goodies and badies along the way.  The goodies want to learn more and follow the wisdom but the badies want to get rid of the manuscript primarily because it threatens their power.

Why Did It Become So Popular?

I first heard of it in 1996 but I never felt compelled to pick it up and read it until 2010.  There is probably no known reason why some books become popular and others do not.  The ideas presented in The Celestine Prophecy book, namely 9 insights into humanity and the universe are attractive to all those in the new age, spiritual thought realm.

What Does The Book Say?

Briefly the insights are…

1. That coincidences are for us to take notice of with more than a passing brush off.

2. History and the ages can be understood when taken in context of a larger perspective of evolution.

3. We are becoming aware that everything is made of energy and we are all connected.

4. We don’t realise it but we compete with each other for energy and this is what breeds conflict.

5. We can connect to the energy of oneness and receive energy consciously this way instead of competing to get energy from other people.

6. We each develop a strategy in childhood to get energy from those around us and we continue this in adulthood.  The four strategies are intimidating, interrogating, being aloof or playing ‘poor me’.

7. Once we can see our control strategy and those of our parents we can become clearer on why we were born to that family and what our life mission is.

8. Become whole and support others by giving them your energy willingly.

9. As we evolve we raise our vibration and this is nurturing and fulfilling for ourselves and the planet.

Cause Of Social Anxiety Disorder, Social Anxiety Help

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What Is The Cause Of Social Anxiety
Disorder?

I will talk more below about possible cause of social anxiety disorder below and social anxiety help but first of all there is nothing wrong with you wanting to be alone.  There are several personality types which prefer being alone as opposed to being social and around other people.

What you probably notice is a fear, phobia or panic whenever you have to interact in a social way.  If that is what you experience then there are things you can do to become more comfortable.

Cue Alcohol

Why do you think alcohol is so prevalent whenever two or more people meet?  Very few people are comfortable, and I mean very few.  Maybe in a room of 100 people 5 might feel energized and excited about interacting with the people there, the other 95 will be in various stages of ‘I hate this, I am so self-conscious, I don’t know what to say, I am so boring, why can’t I be like everyone else, I am crap’ etc.

Having said that, we are social creatures and notice that one of the worst punishments incarcerated people suffered was to be put in solitary confinement. After a while of no interaction it becomes torturous to the mind.

So for now my first bit of advice is claim your individual make-up with pride and say to yourself and the world, ‘I am designed to enjoy my own company more so than social interaction and that is the way I am’.

Guess what. The thoughts you have about caring what other people think are the same thoughts that other people are having. Everyone walks around all day wondering what other people think of them. Did you realise this? People are consumed with thoughts about how they are perceived, not about you.

Tongue Between Your Teeth

Go out one day with the specific intention of watching people. People may look at others but they are really looking to see who notices them. It validates them as attractive or worthy.

Sit on a park bench or mall seat, lean back, head up and gently hold your tongue in between the top and bottom teeth with your lips closed (all this triggers the nervous system to be more relaxed and confident) and watch how little people notice you.  When they do they will be looking to see who notices them.

Let people think what they want. In actual fact you are projecting onto people the thoughts you have about yourself.  If you dislike yourself and feel unworthy it is far easier for the ego to project these outside onto other people.  It really does seem like other people are thinking these things to your mind but in reality these thoughts originate within you. You have no idea what others are thinking and that is their stuff to deal with anyway.

This projection is a common way the mind feels a bit better believe it or not and so this might be a major cause of social anxiety disorder.

It Is All You

The important point is to see that all these thoughts are from you. Once you see it is all starting and ending in your mind you have a little more power to change your experience.  You can stop believing all the things you think others are thinking and just be there, in the moment, without expectations or pressure on yourself to be funny or interesting or clever or whatever you think it is people want from you.

Regardless of the cause of social anxiety disorder you can overcome it by seeing through to the truth of what is going on within your mind.

Career Change Advice, Change In Career, Making A Career Change, Advice Career Change

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Career Change Advice

Career change advice from a spiritual point of view is all about non-interference, just as it is in every area of life.  Let life float you along and you will be on your right track for growth and fulfillment.

All our abilities and passions are not evident from day one and so a change in career is bound to appeal to you at some stage, even if it is scary.

You can do what you want but you can’t choose what you like doing.

A Change In Heart

If you have noticed a change in heart over recent times, an interest in making a career change to something else, then accept that something new in your life may be flowering and it needs patience and time to mature.

Just because you have lost interest and passion for your job doesn’t mean you should quit. When the time is right you will know what to do and when. Be open to following your heart and your intuition. That is the real you, the one that has a journey and a path to follow.

You have free will to ignore the calling to do something else but you will never feel fulfilled if you do ignore it.

Accounting To Enlightenment

I trained as an accountant and was always working with numbers, finance and accounting. At age 33 I started becoming interested in spiritual enlightenment, higher consciousness and psychology. Prior to this I had no awareness of anything to do with personal growth or spirituality at all.

I did not choose to like accounting and I did not choose to develop an interest in spiritual matters.  Where did they come from?  Who knows but I am not passionate about cars or trucks or fashion design as some of you are.  For some reason you are passionate about stuff that bores me and vice versa.  Nothing is wrong, every passion serves a purpose within you and within the whole of us.

When the soul is ready to move on to something else it lets you know via uncomfortable feelings. Be patient and be curious and open to what it is your soul is leading you towards.

Ignore It At Your Peril

If you ignore it this is when depression, sadness and major crises can occur to get you to wake up and listen. It is the way the universe gets you back on track.

Please don’t rush out and make changes quickly from your head, but as I say listen to your gut, follow where you are being guided towards and it will all become clear in time.  The best career change advice comes from your inner guidance.

When in doubt do nothing and just be patient and wait. If you are unsure what to do next just wait until it is obvious to you beyond doubt.  Then the challenge is to do it with conviction.

Care What People Think? Why You Don’t Need To Do So

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Why You Don’t Need To Care What

People
Think

What Can I Do To Stop Caring What Other People Think?

Firstly, you care what people think because you have a made-up identity.

Care What People Think Woman

This identity is not absolute it is just a whole lot of ideas about who you are and what image you like to portray to the world.  This is the secret to letting go of placing so much importance on what others think of you.

Sure you may be kind and nice a lot or on the other hand you might be tough and uncompromising but that is just a habit.  It is a habit that has formed from childhood where you learned one or two effective strategies to feel good, get attention or minimize pain.

How Do I learn To Be OK?

You are OK now, it is just you think you are not.  You are not happy being thought of as ‘cruel’ or ‘mean’ or ‘rude’.  You are taking your idea of who you are or who you should be; your idea of your personality or an ideal personality, and holding onto being that and only that.

To feel OK you need to see that this personality idea you have is not actually you.  You need to embrace being everything under the sun.  There is no little you inside your head or anywhere else.

There is no such thing as mean or kind or cruel in reality.  These labels only appear in your mind by comparing to something or someone else.

At some point you will want a few more biscuits than the two that is socially acceptable to take at a morning tea.  If you do then you might feel rude.  Have you actually been rude or is it just a construct from peer pressure and society?

To feel rude and ashamed for taking four biscuits means you place greater importance on what other people think of you than following your desires.

What Else Do I Need To Know?

The irony is people will respect and admire you more for being true to yourself and honest and authentic in your actions.  If you wanted to do something deep down but didn’t for fear of upsetting someone or being seen a certain way then you are incongruent between your internal world and external actions.

Not only will this make you feel bad but people will not respect you and will walk all over you if they want to do so.  They will sense the pretending and the lack of strength of conviction in your heart.

Women especially feel pressure to be a certain way. 

Begin by noticing how often you betray yourself to please others or to be seen a certain way and you will see the strong influence to care what people think.  Just by watching you will start to do this
less and less.

Capricorn Moon Sign, Capricorn Traits, Astrological Moon Signs

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If You Are A Capricorn
Moon Sign

A capricorn moon sign will have primarily the following traits. Your self-esteem and personal and spiritual growth comes primarily from you acceptance and letting go of any emotional reaction to being labeled something.

Have a look at the list and notice anything which you resist, i.e. it doesn’t fit in with your self-image or you wish it wasn’t part of you.

– Risk adverse

– Likes safety and security

– Hard on self

– Private

– Organised

– Efficient

– Practical

– Patient

– Responsible

– Difficult to show affection

– Overly worrisome

– Ambitious

– Strong willed

– Desire knowledge

– Dislike being idle

– Rarely shows emotions

– Eager to learn

– Materialistic success desired

Then go through all the other astrological moon signs and work your way through those also.  We all posses the ability to display
every trait so your sense of self-acceptance and self-esteem is dependent on you embracing all the capricorn traits from this moon sign list, and all the other 11 as well.

Boosting Self Esteem, Overcoming Low Self Esteem, Improving Your Self Esteem, Help Low Self Esteem, Enhancing Self Esteem

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Boosting Self Esteem

When you wonder about boosting self esteem are you thinking about a
short-term boost or a permanent boost? Overcoming low self esteem
is different than distracting yourself or gaining a boost to your ego.

Young Man Relaxing With Cup Of Coffee

You need to get very clear on what it is you actually are going for. Why do you need to get clear? Because if you truly want a permanent way of improving your self esteem then going after the short-term, impermanent, quick fixes will not achieve a transformation.

A short-term boost to your ego would be something that comes via what you perceive others think of you. For example some wanted attention from the opposite sex will make you feel better about yourself. You will feel attractive and sexy. The problem being once the attention goes away and the mind processes the experience you will be back to just you being with you.

Or you could get a breakthrough on some skill or task or business project. You could achieve that goal of earning $10,000 a month and it will feel like you have some power, influence or value in this world.

Here is a little tip for you to see if you are operating from your ego.  Have a close look at your thoughts.  Not so much the content but the structure and pattern of the content.  For example if you feel good about meeting someone or earning $10,000 per month, have a look if you are imagining other people talking about you or thinking about you.

When you have just met someone new do you imagine your friends and family being impressed with this new person?  Do you feel some good feelings as you…

  • imagine other people thinking about you in a
    certain way?
  • imagine other people talking about you in a
    certain way?

When you are operating from your ego, which in my experience shows up when there are other people involved in your imagination surrounding this event, it is a short-term way of improving your self esteem. It is impermanent, it will disappear as quickly as it came.

A permanent way of boosting self esteem is to operate from some part of your being that is real and authentic.  Live your life from your heart and gut.  Be vigilant when your mind engages in all that stuff about what you need to feel better.

Your mind is not designed to know what is right for you.  If you are making decisions and following ideas that you hope will make others think differently about you then I am afraid you are being inauthentic.

Cancer Moon Sign, Cancer Traits, Astrological Moon Signs

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If You Are A Cancer Moon Sign

A cancer moon sign will have primarily the following traits. Your
self-esteem and personal and spiritual growth comes primarily from you
acceptance and letting go of any emotional reaction to being labeled
something.

Have a look at the list and notice anything which you resist, i.e. it
doesn’t fit in with your self-image or you wish it wasn’t part of you.

– Intuitive

– Good Memory

– Enjoy quiet

– Dislike change

– Devoted

– Deep

– Humorous

– Sensitive

– Empathic

– Artistic or appreciative of arts

– Shy

– Dislike discarding anything

– nurturing

– Welcoming

– Vulnerable

Then go through all the other astrological moon signs and work your way through those also. We all posses the ability to display every trait so your sense of self-acceptance and self-esteem is dependent on you embracing all the cancer traits from this moon sign list, and all the other 11 as well.

Best Inspirational Quotes

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Best Inspirational Quotes

Hand selected best inspirational quotes from various people in different fields of expertise.

Wayne Dyer Quotes

Discover spiritual encouragement and inspiration from Dr Wayne Dyer quotes. These quotes have been selected from a couple of Wayne Dyer books, namely 10 Secrets for Success and Inner Peace and Getting in the Gap…

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Strength Quotes

And Quotes About Honesty

A list of strength quotes to remind you of the strength and power that comes from being true to yourself and honest with others.

There is no reason to be ashamed of what you want or what is important to you.  The world wants your truth.  You are as you are and I hope that these strength quotes remind you that really the only thing worth being in life is integral with your inner guidance and conscience… Read More

Self-Esteem Quotes

A selection of self-esteem quotes spoken from a place of clear awareness describing a main cause of low self-esteem.

People think it is a virtue to disown parts of themselves of which they disapprove. All they succeed in doing is to keep themselves stuck with those parts forever. They have cut off the
only means of growth or transformation.

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Marianne Williamson Quotes

A selection of Marianne Williamson quotes to provide words of spiritual encouragement.  These spiritual quotes are provided here to help paint the picture of what this website is about when I refer to higher self-esteem and self-confidence… Read More

Inspirational Quotes

These inspirational life quotes convey discovering yourself as a way to higher self-esteem. For me it is the only way to genuine… Read More

Deepak Chopra Quotes

Selected spiritual quotations and other inspirational Deepak Chopra quotes.

The deepest hunger in life is a secret that is revealed only when a person is willing to unlock a hidden part of the self… Read More

Eckhart Tolle Quotes

The selected spiritual quotations are picked specifically for relevance to support the intention of this website to raise consciousness and therefore experience higher self esteem. These quotes have been taken from The Power of Now book, The Flowering of Human Consciousness DVD filmed in La Jolla, California
2001 and Practicing Presence DVD.  Read More

Appreciation Quotations

Appreciation quotations to impress upon you the importance of letting go wishing things were different.  In the bigger scheme, there will always be something to appreciate.  When reading these quotations remember that your attitude and perspective determines your experience… Read More

Inspirational Quotes About Life

Here is a list of inspirational quotes about life and how to think about life and what is rewarding and fulfilling.  They are inspirational quotes about life from various people all pointing to
self-empowerment and taking 100% responsibility for your life… Read More

Authentic Happiness, The Great Awakening

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Want To Know The Way To Authentic Happiness?

If you are lost, life is hopeless, pointless and without authentic happiness then this website is for you. Or maybe you just want more inner peace and contentment or a realization of the truth?

Middle Aged Woman Outside Tree Autumn Authentic Happiness

I know how you might be feeling. Do you have a bookshelf full of self help materials? Self esteem low? Have an idea about your spirituality? Maybe you are searching for the umpteenth time for information on self help, spirituality or self esteem. Or, maybe you feel alone and often in despair, drifting with no sense of where you belong, what you are doing in this life or why.

It is probably no coincidence you have come here and are reading. Maybe you were meant to be. This website has been designed with you in mind. Wherever you’re at in your life, whatever your experience, this website is created for you.

Up until age 33 I somehow didn’t feel right. I felt I had a big piece missing and I wanted to be different. Do you know what I mean? For the most part I was quite happy BUT deep down there was something about me I was frustrated with and felt inadequate. Soon I was to find out why ALL human beings experience this or some form of this anxiety, guilt or inferiority complex.

Hopefully that takes a bit of weight off your shoulders, it is not your fault.

This website has been designed and built with you mind. It is available to anyone who is willing to work. The rewards are sure worth it. Keep reading below to find out a bit about what the benefits are.

Actually, once you begin and you find some value in this sort of approach to life it will grab you and it won’t let you go. Then it doesn’t feel like work but just a happy, content peaceful way of living which is ultimately fulfilling.

How would you like a whole new way of seeing the world? It is possible for you to live your life in a whole new way. The information on this website is designed to help you learn how to experience:

  • acceptance
  • love
  • tolerance
  • forgiveness
  • gratitude
  • compassion
  • enhanced skill learning ability
  • respect
  • intuition
  • a presence that makes others feel good
  • inner peace
  • joy
  • unconditional love
  • contentment, and
  • authentic happiness