Ways to Improve Self Esteem, Overcoming Low Self Esteem,Improving Your Self Esteem, Help Low Self Esteem

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11 Ways To Improve Self Esteem

There are just two ways to improve self esteem. One way to raise self-esteem is through inflating your ego, which will ultimately backfire, the other is through self discovery. Self discovery and self acceptance is the only permanent and profound way of overcoming low self-esteem. Read on below to discover why out of both ways to improve self esteem it is my most highly recommended.

1. Know That Your Experience Of Yourself Can Change.

First and foremost you must know that life is not one way. Who you think you are is neither fixed nor accurate. A lion could be raised in a herd of sheep and it could think it was a sheep but its thinking is inaccurate. So to you think you are a certain way but your idea is inaccurate.

2. Know That The Only Way To Change Is To Be 100% Responsible

Whether it is true or not or you like it or not live as if everything you have ever experienced has come to you for a reason.

3. Accept Everything That Comes To You

One step on from taking responsibility for everything is to accept everything that comes as it is. If you drop into playing ‘poor me’ or ‘life is unfair’ or some other interpretation then you are no longer just accepting but personalising it, i.e you are making everything that happens mean something about you.

4. Discover Your Unique Make-Up

We are all designed differently and it is available to you to discover what makes you unique from everyone else. We all have different potential in different areas of life. Abraham Maslow’s humanistic psychology focused on how each individual can actualise their unique potential if the choose.

5. Respect Other People’s Uniqueness

Everyone is on a similar journey towards self discovery and actualisation of their potential, some are doing it consciously while others are unaware it is a possibility or are uninterested.

6. Accept Everything You Discover About Yourself

As you discover your uniqueness own it with acceptance and gratitude no matter what it is.

7. Drop Comparisons With Others

Comparing yourself to others takes you away from what is real and engages your ego. The ego does not know what is right for you. Comparing yourself favourably to someone else will help low self-esteem for a few minutes but the good feeling will vanish as quickly as it came.

8. Improve What Is Around You

One of the things we do have control of is the environment we are within. By this I mean the people, books, living conditions, entertainment, food and other influences that surround you. In every moment make a more positive choice. We become a product of what is around us so choose wisely.

9. Embrace Your Reality

Everyone has a different version of reality and yours is as valid as anyone else’s. Be true to what you feel is right for you. Be strong and aligned with your truth. Say what is true for you and say it without seeking approval from others. The stronger the alignment between your internal truth and your external words and actions, the faster you will raise your self esteem.

10. Make Your Truth More Important

See that being true to yourself and honest is more important than what other people think. Other people have their own stuff going on and do not know what it is like to be you. Make you be the authority of you. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” This is one of the most powerful ways to improve self-esteem because you are in essence backing yourself.

11. Realise That Other People Relate To You For Their Own Reasons

People always act according to what is most important to them and what is for their benefit. It might be glorious to think some people are self-less and act for what is best for others but very few people on the planet have reached this level of development. Humans are concerned with self-survival so they always act in their best interests. You do this too but you probably feel ashamed or guilty to admit this. Accept it and own it. It is not wrong.

These 11 spiritual principles when lived transform your experience of life and of yourself. They are 11 ways to improve self-esteem permanently.

Overcoming Low Self Esteem, Ways To Improve Self Esteem, Improving Your Self Esteem, Help Low Self Esteem, Enhancing Self Esteem

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Overcoming Low Self Esteem

Transforming your experience of yourself is the key to overcoming low self-esteem. In 2007 two years after I had my first and most profound enlightenment experience I realised how I could learn more about my conditioning and programming.

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Unfortunately you and everyone else grew up with less than ideal influences and messages. You are subject to the messages from your parents and teachers about what is right and wrong. However Mum and Dad or whoever took care of you have their own unique hurt and fear and this shapes the messages you receive.

Your self-image and your ideas of what is acceptable and expected is formed from these messages and your own unique interpretations of what you experience.

Improving your self-esteem is about discovering what is true below these messages. Who are you before you believed what your hurt Father did or said to you? What is real below this hurt layer of beliefs? If you were told that you are good at nothing and will never be anything in life then this becomes what you believe to be true.

I am interested in what is true in reality, not just what you believe. These beliefs cover up what is true and unfortunately you will continue to experience these beliefs as true instead of what is actually true.

If you believe you are stupid you will interpret your actions and other people’s actions and words to align with this belief. I may say something silly (and I do at times) but I never make it mean I am stupid. You also may say something silly and you will feel stupid and hate yourself and feel that feeling of low self-esteem.

It is the same with any trait: ugly, boring, not good enough, mean etc, etc. Whatever you believe to be true about yourself will be how you interact with others and how you interpret what you experience.

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Boosting Self Esteem

When you wonder about boosting self esteem are you thinking about a
short-term boost or a permanent boost? Overcoming low self esteem
is different than distracting yourself or gaining a boost to your ego.

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You need to get very clear on what it is you actually are going for. Why do you need to get clear? Because if you truly want a permanent way of improving your self esteem then going after the short-term, impermanent, quick fixes will not achieve a transformation.

A short-term boost to your ego would be something that comes via what you perceive others think of you. For example some wanted attention from the opposite sex will make you feel better about yourself. You will feel attractive and sexy. The problem being once the attention goes away and the mind processes the experience you will be back to just you being with you.

Or you could get a breakthrough on some skill or task or business project. You could achieve that goal of earning $10,000 a month and it will feel like you have some power, influence or value in this world.

Here is a little tip for you to see if you are operating from your ego. Have a close look at your thoughts. Not so much the content but the structure and pattern of the content. For example if you feel good about meeting someone or earning $10,000 per month, have a look if you are imagining other people talking about you or thinking about you.

When you have just met someone new do you imagine your friends and family being impressed with this new person? Do you feel some good feelings as you…

imagine other people thinking about you in a
certain way?
imagine other people talking about you in a
certain way?

When you are operating from your ego, which in my experience shows up when there are other people involved in your imagination surrounding this event, it is a short-term way of improving your self esteem. It is impermanent, it will disappear as quickly as it came.

A permanent way of boosting self esteem is to operate from some part of your being that is real and authentic. Live your life from your heart and gut. Be vigilant when your mind engages in all that stuff about what you need to feel better.

Your mind is not designed to know what is right for you. If you are making decisions and following ideas that you hope will make others think differently about you then I am afraid you are being inauthentic.