Ways to Improve Self Esteem, Overcoming Low Self Esteem,Improving Your Self Esteem, Help Low Self Esteem

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11 Ways To Improve Self Esteem

There are just two ways to improve self esteem. One way to raise self-esteem is through inflating your ego, which will ultimately backfire, the other is through self discovery. Self discovery and self acceptance is the only permanent and profound way of overcoming low self-esteem. Read on below to discover why out of both ways to improve self esteem it is my most highly recommended.

1. Know That Your Experience Of Yourself Can Change.

First and foremost you must know that life is not one way. Who you think you are is neither fixed nor accurate. A lion could be raised in a herd of sheep and it could think it was a sheep but its thinking is inaccurate. So to you think you are a certain way but your idea is inaccurate.

2. Know That The Only Way To Change Is To Be 100% Responsible

Whether it is true or not or you like it or not live as if everything you have ever experienced has come to you for a reason.

3. Accept Everything That Comes To You

One step on from taking responsibility for everything is to accept everything that comes as it is. If you drop into playing ‘poor me’ or ‘life is unfair’ or some other interpretation then you are no longer just accepting but personalising it, i.e you are making everything that happens mean something about you.

4. Discover Your Unique Make-Up

We are all designed differently and it is available to you to discover what makes you unique from everyone else. We all have different potential in different areas of life. Abraham Maslow’s humanistic psychology focused on how each individual can actualise their unique potential if the choose.

5. Respect Other People’s Uniqueness

Everyone is on a similar journey towards self discovery and actualisation of their potential, some are doing it consciously while others are unaware it is a possibility or are uninterested.

6. Accept Everything You Discover About Yourself

As you discover your uniqueness own it with acceptance and gratitude no matter what it is.

7. Drop Comparisons With Others

Comparing yourself to others takes you away from what is real and engages your ego. The ego does not know what is right for you. Comparing yourself favourably to someone else will help low self-esteem for a few minutes but the good feeling will vanish as quickly as it came.

8. Improve What Is Around You

One of the things we do have control of is the environment we are within. By this I mean the people, books, living conditions, entertainment, food and other influences that surround you. In every moment make a more positive choice. We become a product of what is around us so choose wisely.

9. Embrace Your Reality

Everyone has a different version of reality and yours is as valid as anyone else’s. Be true to what you feel is right for you. Be strong and aligned with your truth. Say what is true for you and say it without seeking approval from others. The stronger the alignment between your internal truth and your external words and actions, the faster you will raise your self esteem.

10. Make Your Truth More Important

See that being true to yourself and honest is more important than what other people think. Other people have their own stuff going on and do not know what it is like to be you. Make you be the authority of you. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” This is one of the most powerful ways to improve self-esteem because you are in essence backing yourself.

11. Realise That Other People Relate To You For Their Own Reasons

People always act according to what is most important to them and what is for their benefit. It might be glorious to think some people are self-less and act for what is best for others but very few people on the planet have reached this level of development. Humans are concerned with self-survival so they always act in their best interests. You do this too but you probably feel ashamed or guilty to admit this. Accept it and own it. It is not wrong.

These 11 spiritual principles when lived transform your experience of life and of yourself. They are 11 ways to improve self-esteem permanently.

Shadow Work, Dr John Demartini, How To Heal Your Shadow

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Shadow Work

Shadow work is counter intuitive because it asks you to love the parts of yourself that you would rather not be there, but as you will read below that is where the power is.

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Demartini Method

Dr John Demartini created The Demartini Method. It is one of the most powerful ways to improve self-esteem that I know of. The crux of The Demartini Method and The Breakthrough Experience is shadow-work as coined by Carl Jung the great psychologist… Read More

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Discover Gold In The Shadow And Change Your Life

The gold in the shadow can be understood by seeing that just as we protect our sense of self by denying that we possess ‘bad’ qualities, we also do not fully acknowledge that we… Read More

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The Shadow Effect Movie

The Shadow Effect is a movie creation from Debbie Ford released in 2009. Along similar lines to the movie The Secret, the movie has known and lesser know individuals speaking about the shadow. As with any piece of work; a book, movie, essay or poem, it speaks to you… Read More

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Healing Your Shadow Improves Your Life

Healing the shadow is probably the quickest, easiest and most powerful way to increase self-esteem, self-acceptance and self-love. The shadow is a term coined by famous Swiss psychologist Carl Jung. Jung coined the term ‘shadow-self’ to make a distinction between… Read More

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Psychological Projection

What is psychological projection? Who you think you are; your self-image, ego or id as Sigmund Freud called it is OK with being some things but not OK with being others. The ego ‘breathes’ by virtue of believing you are an object that is separate from the rest of the world. In actual fact you are not separate, you are not an object and you are not one particular way… Read More

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What Is The Human Shadow?

Every human being has an idea of what sort of person they are. The human shadow is everything that does not exist within your accepted self image. In reality a human being seems to be a potential to be anything at any time rather than one fixed way. Therefore your self image keeps you trapped… Read More

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Why Is Shadow Work Powerful?

Shadow work derived from the famous Swiss psychologist Carl Jung who coined the term shadow to refer to the parts of the psyche that we are unconscious of. Anything that is unconscious seemingly has more influence in our lives than that we do consciously.

In this respect you can think of the patterns and agenda of the unconscious like a robot in that they run automatically. This is good for essential bodily functions like breathing for example but not great for psychological functions such as… Read More

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Own Your Shadow-Self To Improve Your Life

The shadow-self is a very important aspect of your experience of yourself and life. I am going to explain to you in basic terms the crux of the shadow-self and hopefully you will see clearly why it is such a determining factor of your self-esteem. You will no doubt notice that you have a self-image. This is undeniable and this self-image is a construction within your mind of how you are. Because it is so obvious and so familiar and seemingly so real we live life as if… Read More

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Ego Defense: Shadow Projection

Shadow projection is the way in which you can easily spot what human traits are in your shadow.

Your shadow self is that which is unconscious. As we are complete in our potential experience, anything which we deny as being part of us becomes unconscious. What the ego (self-image) does is… Read More

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List Of Archetypes

What is an archetype? It is very important for your self-acceptance and self-esteem to understand this. Carl Jung created the term Collective Unconscious. This refers to the tendencies, predispositions, natural inclinations and way of thinking about your self and the world. You could say these tendencies are natural and arise within you despite the cultural programming of what is good, acceptable and OK. For example… Read More

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Self-Love, Loving

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How To Have Self-Love

What do we mean when we talk of self-love? At some level of awareness we could be talking about feeling worthy, liking being you, or feeling there is nothing to change.

On another level of awareness it could mean really stopping to notice that you have never challenged (asked/sought an answer) the fact that you are doing this thing called living but you have no knowing of what that is.

Self-love for me is experiencing ever increasing amounts of wonder and joy at my own existence.

By really stopping and noticing that I exist and challenging the mind to stay with me it brings amazement, wonder, self-love and a humbleness that is hard to replicate in the world of things.

I mean really realize like you realize you have never actually noticed before.

A letting go happens that allows you to not care so much about this identity and self image you have been carrying around. The image will still be there to an extent, but the identification with the image as ‘who you are’ will loosen.

As you sit there, see if your mind will allow you to consider what would be different if you were born to a different family.

I believe Buddha said ‘that which changes isn’t real and that which is real doesn’t change’. Here he is referring to dropping and letting go believing you are the collection of memories and personality traits and noticing what would be the same even if you had different memories and experiences.

All you will ever need is ‘you’. There is enough to learn and discover and entertain you simply by becoming more and more curious and aware and in awe of ‘you’.

As you discover the truth you will notice more and more that your awareness of your life flows inside outwards rather than outside inwards.

I distinctly remember the first time I owned the whole world. I was walking to work in 2006 and I realized that the whole world was within. Everything I was aware of was happening in my awareness. For there to be something outside of me, I had to be there also.

It was an amazing experience.

To know the trees along the road and the boats on the water out from St Heliers, Auckland as I walked down the hill to work were all ‘within me’ was liberating and empowering. I distinctly remembering then the new overwhelming feelings of awe, wonder amazement and self-love.

What lead up to this was a lot of contemplation and work but what opened the door was realizing that anything I feel comes from within me.

That is to say anything I feel is my responsibility. Outside conditions or occurrences do not come prepackaged with feelings.

Anything I experience is created and experienced within me. I had not long earlier really understood and seen this in my own experience of life.

You can continue to operate in your old way and survive but if you really want to live a meaningful life, go for the truth. How do you do that? Find out the truth of who and what you are and the way ‘It’ is.

Watch and see yourself do this thing called living and experience self-love, not just as an idea or a function of positive thinking, but as an experience.