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March 2012 - Page 6 of 13 - Self-Help, Spirituality & Self-Esteem

Practice Of Contemplation, Meditation

Practice
Of Contemplation

To Empower You

A very powerful technique is the practice of contemplation. Some might call it navel gazing but these people probably don’t understand how or why this discipline can change your life. As a child I remember contemplating why I could see the pen on the table.

Contemplation was too big a word for a ten-year-old but I was just curious why could I make the distinction between the pen and the table.

After considering the matter for a while I knew that the light was different between the two objects and that allowed me to see that one thing was not the other. Pretty simple explanation but nevertheless it sort of says enough.

Do you remember doing such things as a child?

Maybe you didn’t acknowledge it but you doing this was engaging in the practice of contemplation. I am sure at some stage you would have wondered why things are the way they are.

The practice of contemplation is to look into a matter to become aware of the way something is, or the why something is.

We generally hold a thing to be something we can pick up, something tangible, a form that two or more people could come to some agreement about its existence. Consider that a thing – a form – is also a thought, a feeling, an experience, and a way of seeing the world.

These ‘things’ are invisible we might say but still they occur.

These things occur in your experience of life and you can objectify them to a greater or lesser degree. By that I mean you can watch them occurring. You can step back, so to speak, and say ‘I am noticing I experience this’. You would do well to consider anything that you can distinguish as a ‘thing’, ‘object’, ‘form’.

I am calling a thing anything that you notice now which wasn’t there once upon a time and won’t be there in the future. That being the case, why is it there now? If it is not fixed, unchanging and absolute then why is it there now? This is fodder for the practice of contemplation. Why is it? Why is it so? Why is it so the way that it is?

Take shame for example. The next time you feel embarrassed, be curious about what you assume to be true to make you feel embarrassed right then. You can do it later if more appropriate but the important point is to notice that it is there now, or was there and it will go in time. So why is it there now? What do you hold to be true in your idea of yourself and the world that causes the shame? We are too passive in our living. We assume that experiences and feelings come pre-packaged. Combined with the ‘it is just the way I am’ naive mentality we end up living a life of self-ignorance and reaction.

I rarely have negative emotions these days. I rarely feel that inner contraction to a noticeable degree. Sure if there is a confrontation or some issue being worked through I might feel some physical sensation but rarely do I notice any real emotion.

For a couple of years I have engaged in the practice of contemplation. Either on the spot or later that evening contemplating anything that happened that day which I reacted to with a feeling. Even the slightest contraction away from another person would see me wonder what I didn’t like about this situation. If I felt fear I wondered what was I afraid of happening. If I felt down or uninspired by work I would contemplate the way I was thinking about life and work. I could then see the cause and effect relationship between my thoughts and my experience.

Once I could see I was creating this unconsciously I could change it consciously and feel better.   Contemplation is powerful, ancient and used by great spiritual leaders and masters the world over.  It can also be used by you.

Poseidon God of the Sea, Archetypes And Myths, Unconscious Personality

Poseidon
God Of The Sea

Poseidon God of the sea is the archetype covering the domain of emotion and instinct. With Poseidon active you will feel emotion intensely and that will give you plenty to work with to transform.

The word archetype describes what Carl Jung identified as patterns of behaving that arise from the collective unconscious of humankind. The pattern of being is not unique to an individual; it is available to manifest in each of us because we each reflect a part of the whole.

To recognize Poseidon active within your life look
for…

  • Bottling up strong emotions instead of instantaneous
    expression
  • Feeling strongly
  • Uncontrollable rage
  • A poor loser
  • Not comfortable in the world of school and intellectual
    realms
  • Operates day-to-day from a feeling and instinctual base
    rather than logic and planning

Possible drawbacks to living the Poseidon archetype…

  • Can be viewed as emotionally unstable or inappropriate
  • For men can feel alienated as emotions are not
    traditionally accepted within men
  • low self-esteem for not being allowed to be himself by
    society (lack of acceptance)

This information has been summarized from the book Gods in Everyman by Jean Shinoda Bolen.

If you recognize your patterns of acting and being in the world from the above list and are curious about what you can do to change, then first and foremost use this information as proof that you are not different, defective or a victim of your past programming.

The above shows the commonality in the human experience when certain innate energies are active. As such begin by accepting that you do indeed own these particular traits and let it be OK that you do.

This will slightly raise your self-esteem and self-acceptance for each trait you own.   If you would like some guidance or clarification, please contact me, I would love to help.

Pisces Moon Sign, Pisces Traits, Astrological Moon Signs


If You Are A Pisces
Moon Sign

A pisces moon sign will have primarily the following traits. Your self-esteem and personal and spiritual growth comes primarily from you acceptance and letting go of any emotional reaction to being labeled something.

Have a look at the list and notice anything which you resist, i.e. it doesn’t fit in with your self-image or you wish it wasn’t part of you.

– Sensitive

– Intuitive

– Probably psychic

– Likes change

– Dislikes routine

– Shy

– Easy going

– Creative ideas

– Romantic ideals

– Compassionate

– Easily amused

– Easily misunderstood as dreamy but in reality deep thinkers

– Empathic

– Can understand things not yet experienced

– Curious

– Not overly attached to material possessions

Then go through all the other astrological moon signs and work your way through those also.  We all posses the ability to display every trait so your sense of self-acceptance and self-esteem is dependent on you embracing all the pisces traits from this moon sign list, and all the other 11 as well.

Personal Responsibility For Your Life


Personal
Responsibility For Your Life

Personal responsibility for your life and what you experience is critical.

It is one of life’s paradoxes that we think if we don’t take responsibility, and blame others instead, we will feel better or suffer less.

It certainly seems like the world happens on its own and affects you in random ways. Every reaction, emotion and feeling you experience is yours. Many people don’t realize that when you don’t like someone it is not what they are doing or who they are, it is all coming from you.

In a reaction to someone you don’t like it is you unconsciously deciding what should be different about him or her or the situation (but secretly you are reacting to that trait within yourself).

Remember we are not judging these reactions as right or wrong.  This can take much work to watch and really be honest with yourself, but this is what it takes to have personal responsibility for your life. The reactions will still happen even when you know it is coming from within.

However, once you know and can own this fact, you are empowered to consciously stop doing anything that hurts you or doesn’t feel so good. Until such time as you let go of wanting the world, others or yourself to be different you will still have these reactions.

The first step in having personal responsibility for your life is to be conscious of what is happening. Imagine a time when your foot has ‘fallen asleep’ as we say. You know your foot is full of pins and needles because you are sitting on it. You understand the cause and the reaction. What if you were so unaware that you had not yet put the two together?

To blame it on outside forces as if you are a help-less victim is the opposite of taking personal responsibility for your life.

Chocolate Story

I recall a story told to me years ago when I was a teenager. It is a true story told to me to explain food allergies. Every Sunday morning a woman would wake up with a headache. This went on for years and of course she sought treatment from doctors and various therapies. Things got so bad and intolerable for her that she was ready to commit herself to a mental health institution. Luckily someone was aware enough to ask her what she ate or did differently Saturday evening.

Her husband had a little ritual whereby he would walk to the local store Saturday evening and purchase three things; the newspaper, some milk and a bar of chocolate. That evening they would share the chocolate bar. Of course being intolerant or allergic to chocolate she would be a mess by Sunday morning. Not surprisingly once she became aware of this the following Saturday she took personal responsibility for her life and consciously chose to not eat the chocolate. The pain didn’t come.

How does this relate to helping yourself or having a more peaceful life? Any reaction you have, any feeling or thought comes from you, end of story. It is caused by you and the outside world simply reflects an aspect of your inside world. The outside is a reflection of you. This includes all events and relationships and experiences.

Personal Example

Recently I have been in a situation twice (both within the same week which gives me a big clue as to what I am to learn about myself at that point in time) where I have done something for the benefit of others. Not surprisingly when the others haven’t reacted with total appreciation and showered me with specialness in the way I imagined, I have felt hurt. With the hurt comes resentment and a contraction away from these people.

However, thankfully I am aware enough to own that I completely and utterly created this situation all on my own. I take personal responsibility for my life and these people don’t owe me any feelings. The solution? See clearly that I created the whole thing, and then the hurt isn’t generated.

Through owning what I did I released attachment to those outcomes and no longer have hurt or resentment. I take personal responsibility for my life and what I alone experience.

If you are resenting someone have a look and see what the generator of the resentment is. In your mind have you sacrificed something for someone, then felt unappreciated and so now you resent them?

You either take 100% personal responsibility for your life or you are the victim. Whichever one you choose will determine the amount of suffering or peace you experience. Simply by having that attitude you will already be creating more peace in your life.

As Ken Wilber says; it’s like if you had a sore arm and then one day looked down and realized you were pinching your arm. So too if an area of your life is not working you can look at your thoughts, values, desires, self-image and see the way you create your emotional and feeling states.

To be the victim by definition means you hold it that the outside world happens on its own and affects you in random unprovoked ways. If this is what you hold to be true no wonder you feel fearful, scared, isolated, depressed, despairing and alone in a big world.

To take personal responsibility for your life, which includes material possessions and relationships as well as your emotions, is to immediately in that moment progress your growth and enjoyment of life. Being a victim causes you to suffer. Taking personal responsibility for your life still brings feelings but the feelings become feedback instead of suffering.

Paul Potts Audition, Britain’s Got Talent Paul Potts, Self-Confidence, Self-Esteem


Emotional Paul
Potts Audition

Two years before Susan Boyle came another amazing moment in TV.

This Paul Potts audition has been watched by millions on YouTube. It brings about an extraordinary emotional reaction in people.  Paul talks briefly about his lack of self-confidence and self-esteem, but as is usual when he is doing what he loves, he feels like he is a part of something bigger and that nothing is missing.  This is his spiritual awareness that singing allows him to touch.

This is the first ever Paul Potts opera performance on Britain’s Got Talent singing Nessun Dorma, and he goes on to sing Time to Say Goodbye in the next round.

UPDATE: The video has had to be removed due to not being able to secure a non-copyrighted version. I recommend you search on Youtube for Paul Potts Audition.

Since 2007 Paul Potts has been around the world promoting his albums.  It is a great example of how life can change very quickly for us as he used to sell mobile phones.  Whether it is something in the stars that finally brings us to a place I don’t know or maybe it is all about visualizing and manifesting.

Either way I believe if you follow what you are passionate about and stay in integrity you will be drawn to the circumstances that allow you to serve others in the best way you can.

Overcoming Low Self Esteem, Ways To Improve Self Esteem, Improving Your Self Esteem, Help Low Self Esteem, Enhancing Self Esteem

Overcoming Low Self Esteem

Transforming your experience of yourself is the key to overcoming low self-esteem.  In 2007 two years after I had my first and most profound enlightenment experience I realised how I could learn more about my conditioning and programming.

Young Woman Smiling Group Of People

Unfortunately you and everyone else grew up with less than ideal influences and messages.  You are subject to the messages from your parents and teachers about what is right and wrong.  However Mum and Dad or whoever took care of you have their own unique hurt and fear and this shapes the messages you receive.

Your self-image and your ideas of what is acceptable and expected is formed from these messages and your own unique interpretations of what you experience.

Improving your self-esteem is about discovering what is true below these messages.  Who are you before you believed what your hurt Father did or said to you?  What is real below this hurt layer of beliefs?  If you were told that you are good at nothing and will never be anything in life then this becomes what you believe to be true.

I am interested in what is true in reality, not just what you believe.  These beliefs cover up what is true and unfortunately you will continue to experience these beliefs as true instead of what is actually true.

If you believe you are stupid you will interpret your actions and other people’s actions and words to align with this belief.  I may say something silly (and I do at times) but I never make it mean I am stupid.   You also may say something silly and you will feel stupid and hate yourself and feel that feeling of low self-esteem.

It is the same with any trait: ugly, boring, not good enough, mean etc, etc.  Whatever you believe to be true about yourself will be how you interact with others and how you interpret what you experience.

Moon Signs Astrology, Determine Moon Sign, What Is My Moon Sign?


How Moon
Signs Astrology

Can Help You

Moon signs astrology is an important but often neglected aspect of astrology. One of the benefits of knowing more about your birth chart is self-acceptance, which leads to higher self-esteem.

Check out the links below to each moon sign. The sun sign could be thought of as an indicator of what is going on between you and the outside world whereas the moon sign is more between you and your inside world, if that makes sense.

Moon signs reveal your deepest values and motivators. Left alone and completely free to be you, what would you do? If you could ask someone to allow you to be who you were created as, what would you need to tell them?/p>>

Often we feel discontent at being misunderstood and not allowed to be ‘us’ by loved ones and society. Well, I strongly recommend you learn more about your moon sign traits and that will help you know yourself, accept yourself and then in turn the strength, self-acceptance and integrity you radiate will command acceptance by others.

Moon signs astrology is well worth some time spent with an open mind.

Are You Asking Yourself ‘What is My Moon Sign’?

Here is a useful moon sign calculator chart from Planet Watcher (opens in a new window) for you to enter your birth date and time if
known in GMT. If you don’t know the time of birth then enter 12:00 PM.

Look on the chart for the grey crescent shaped moon and take note of which zodiac sign it falls within. If you are unsure or can’t find the moon then as a test run, put in the date Sep 6 2010 and have a look at bottom right where ‘5’ would be on a clock. You will see the moon in the zodiac of Leo (the red squiggly symbol).

Unfortunately this chart doesn’t label the signs, but if you were to look at the left where about an’8′ would be on a clock, see the red symbol for Aries and then carrying on anti-clockwise in order you get…

– Taurus

– Gemini

– Cancer

– Leo

– Virgo

– Libra

– Scorpio

– Sagittarius

– Capricorn

– Aquarius

– Pisces

If you were unsure of your birth time and you see the moon is on the cusp between two signs, then click on the links below and read with interest about both signs. You should be able to determine the moon sign that is most relevant to you.

Aries
Zodiac

Taurus Zodiac

Gemini
Zodiac

Cancer Zodiac

Leo Zodiac

Virgo
Zodiac

Libra
Zodiac

Scorpio Sign

Sagittarius Sign

Capricorn Sign

Aquarius Sign

Pisces Zodiac

Mind, Mindfulness


Mind
– You Use It

Or It Will Use You

Mind is one of those things we assume we know what we are talking about, but we never stop to admit to ourselves we have no idea what it is.

What is it? Where is it? Why should you care?

Well, chances are it is not being used by you but rather has built up a series of reactions and programs to life. Quite ironic because it has been instrumental in creating your life and then you have reactions to it as if life was happening to you from the outside randomly.

It is possible with watching and contemplating to see how your life has drawn to you opportunities to experience what you have imagined for yourself.

Probably the difficult part is seeing and acknowledging what you have imagined for yourself over and over again.

Maybe you have wanted to be a hero, wanted to be feared, not wanted anyone to hurt you, believed money is evil etc. If these imaginings and pretenses have been there without you being aware they are there, then we can say they have been unconscious.

Watching

Just like kids in a class; if you watch them and give tasks and keep them disciplined they will achieve and create. So it is with mind. Without watching and choosing what you wish to create, your mind will run afraid of the big bad world out there.

Now, this can either stay as an unconscious reaction or you can decide to watch your mind create your world and learn to choose ways that serve you better; think about things differently, take a different perspective, take no perspective even, just observe.

For example someone could raise his or her voice at you and you react by feeling small and worthless. Or you could consciously choose to take the perspective that this person has some emotional stuff that is going on inside and you just happen to be the person in front of them now.

You don’t know what childhood they had, you don’t know what fears or phobias this person is carrying around. You don’t know just how little they feel able to cope with the world and their feelings. So given all of that plus a bunch more stuff that could be going on why should you make their raised voice mean anything about you?

They raise their voice because they think themselves and the world are a certain way.

Contemplate

Man Contemplation

Of course if you do feel a reaction then that is great information to then take yourself away somewhere quietly, or that night, contemplate exactly what is it you believe about yourself and the world that caused you to react in such a way.

That reaction is your personality self, your idea of who you are keeping itself alive. If you think of yourself as gentle and never causing anyone any harm then a person with an angry voice in front of you is going to cause you to react in some way.

You might find yourself compelled to apologize just to keep the peace or find you have a lump stuck in your throat and stomach for a couple of days because ‘upsetting’ this person has that much contradicted your self-image.

Whatever it is a careful observation will see that this experience is congruent with your internal beliefs and focus. To change you need to simply see this is the case and not allow these thoughts to continue.

Be careful what you say to yourself and others also. How do you act? Do you act as if people are scary? Continue to observe your world and know that mind will either be mostly

  • uncontrolled and running without your conscious
    awareness
  • controlled and chosen by you how to behave and what to
    create in your experience
  • controlled by some other power, e.g. media, society,
    collective consciousness, a cult leader, someone you put on a pedestal
    etc.

Perspective

A change in your perspective, a change in your view of who you are and what is ‘real’ out there will open up options for you. You will be free to create a life you wish, and to think with such clarity and focus that whatever you desire consciously will be more likely to be given to you.

It is a step-by-step process to learn how you operate, what you are and then display mastery of your experience. Day by day decide what you choose, focus and know it is real for you, have faith, stop any thoughts which contradict your desires (including wanting because wanting will give you more wanting, trying will give you more trying) and see how your mind creates situations for you to then experience with your body, that which you held to be true.

Mayan 2012, Carl Calleman


Mayan 2012

Dr. Carl Calleman has specialised in researching the Mayan 2012 wisdom.  For anyone that does not know the Mayan calendar allegedly predicted a significant event on December 21, 2012.

Below is a movie that I watched recently which explains what this prediction might really be about.  For anyone who has noticed within themselves a shift in what you think is true, or a shift in what you are interested in, or a shift in the attitude and perspectives you take on the events that happen within your life and the world, then this movie will help explain what we as conscious beings might be going through.

Instead of focusing on Mayan 2012, Dr Carl Calleman explains that the Mayan wisdom it is really about the few short weeks left leading up to 28 October 2011 which might see dramatic and unexplainable change; unexplainable from a purely rational, scientific perspective.

Warning, there is some scare mongering within the movie.  I do not mean to suggest that it has been done for effect or to create panic, but just to be vigilant within your own thoughts to not let all that is said become what you believe is going to happen.

Overall, the moral of the movie is the same message that any spiritual teacher over endless time as said.  That is, have awareness of your heart and intuition, and you cannot be too humble, do not hold the perspective that your successes are because you are so great – because there might not actually be a separate ‘you’ – everything you have and are is because of the creator, in other words.  Likewise, when natural or personal disaster strikes, take a breath, remember there is a lot more going on with the divine plan that you know.

Don’t take it personally, don’t call it ‘bad’, just stay present and deal with whatever needs taking care of in the present moment with small adjustments to your environment.

Enjoy the movie all about Mayan 2012, The Quickening.

The Quickening from keith wyatt on Vimeo.

Marianne Williamson Quotes, Spiritual Quotes, Words of Spiritual Encouragement, Self-Esteem, Self-Confidence

Wise Marianne
Williamson Quotes

Below are a selection of Marianne Williamson quotes to provide words of spiritual encouragement.

These spiritual quotes are provided here to help paint the picture of what this website is about when I refer to higher self-esteem and self-confidence.

The spiritual meaning of every situation: not what happens to us but what we do with what happens to us and who we decide to become because of what happens to us.

To achieve a miraculous experience of life, we must embrace a more spiritual perspective. Otherwise, we will die one day without ever having known the real joy of living.

As the mind is permeated by the realization of the awesome power that lies within us, and as we allow ourselves to embrace the principles of higher awareness, the ego in time takes a back-seat to higher truth. It cannot stand before a mind that has begun to awaken to its true reality.

I have learned, when in my life has been most painful, that the me who can be hurt is not the real me.

Is not an insult an opportunity for me to look at that part of myself that can be insulted and say “Ha, you’re not even really me”?

You’re not better than anyone esle, but neither are you worse than anyone else. All of us have special gifts, all of us are born to shine in one way or another.

The goal of spiritual practice is full recovery, and the only thing you need to recover from is a fractured sense of self.

Spiritual progress is like detoxification. Things have to come up in order to be released. Once we have asked to be healed, then our unhealed places are forced to the surface.

Do you prefer to be right or happy?